Great advice, donāt force anything, however you feel at any given moment, is the way it should be. Advice someone said on here is true Its okay,not to be okay.
Take care.x
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I have not posted for a while Iām 22 months in I have not done anything with my husbands things. I still wash the clothes and put them back in the wardrobe I have to try and sort them I think now, but I think Iām erasing him from my life xx
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Hi Kim 5
Im only 5months in and I canāt attempt to part with my husbands clothes. It was refreshing to know you are lot longer than me and still him your husband around you. Iām not sure if and when I can part with his clothes either. We will maybe one day be able to. Good Luck xx
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No longer have Shells clothes ( apart from a few chosen items) circumstances meant I had to move, so didnāt have room. I do have all her Winnie the Pooh, trinkets, and stuffed toys, also all the bedding, we shared is still.used on the bed we shared. In my living room, is the sofa, she last sat on, so yes many material things, still around, but even if they werenāt, her aurora, her presence still surrounds me. You release the material things when it feels right for you, that could be anytime, whatever, whenever, is the correct descion.
Take care.xx
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Everyone has there way, after a year of constantly grieving, I realised I couldnāt carry on, so l stop thinking about him, he still in my head 24/7 but in the back, l broke my leg not long after he died and than it was my retirement year, so my Health has suffered greatly, at the moment l finds ways of getting through every day, and there not bad, I have things he bought me but Iām not materialistic with dates and Certain items, l realise that when I had a ring made with his some of his ashes into it, I think I thought it would mean something but when I got it l didnāt, everybody different, and life goes on, I think Iām just sad that now he misses things,
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Itās sad Les. You have to make a life without them. As you say, you always think, you should have been here to see this. My husband died just before his 68th birthday. I still think he was too young. I still saw him as the 18 year old I met and married. You can never have that again with anyone. Live your best life, Les, for both of you. X
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My Allan died in November last week I went up to Durham where he lived and bought back some of his things, I am happy I have bought them home, the landlord would have thrown them all out, I like having his things around itās a strange sort of comfort Now the coroner has traced his family they will now organise funeral and I have passed on my contact details that I really want to be in touch with them, but it is up to them, so if they donāt get in touch at least I have some of his personal things
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I had a bear and a blanket made from my fiancĆ©ās shirts, itās a way to keep hold of them
The bear also has some of his ashes inside
My best friend made the larger bear and put a heart shaped pouch inside with some ashes inside the bear is wearing my favourite shirt of my fiancĆ©ās he was wearing a red shirt the first time we met.
They are just some ideas of what I had to do with his clothes so that I can still cuddle him.
I hope you can think of something that would help you remember your partner.
I hope this poem brings you some comfort xx
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