Today is 11 weeks since my beautiful auntie passed away and I’m struggling. Tuesdays always hit harder as it was the day she passed and throughout the day all I’ve done is cry, I decided I would try and go for a walk but when I was out I saw someone I knew and she asked about my auntie and how I was and it just opened up the floodgates again, I’ve spent the last 7 months crying everyday (my auntie lived for 4 months since her diagnosis) and I wish I could stop crying so much. I’m not sleeping properly which doesn’t help and feel so anxious all the time, I have a feeling that something bad will happen again and worry about my mum and brother. 8 weeks after my auntie passed they found my cousin had passed away in his house and it’s his funeral next week which I’m struggling with too. Does anyone have any tips to help with anxiety please?
Hello Topaz2111. I am sorry to hear about the passing of your beloved aunty and then your cousin. Losing the ones we love so much leaves a really big chasm in our lives. My beautiful mam passed away 4 weeks ago. We lived together for 60 years and I miss her so much. I, like you, am crying all the time and if anybody mentions mam, I begin to sob uncontrollably. The one thing I would say is that grief is part of the process of losing a loved one. I know that does not really help as such because when I am crying out, I just want mam back. You have made a good start by posting on here. Look at other threads and begin to respond to them. Talking with people in the same situation can help. If it becomes too much is there anyone that you can speak to about the passing of your aunty? I know that it isn’t always possible. I have a brother. He visited about 3 times a week. He stayed for around an hour, but never really said or did much. When I see him now, I want to talk about mam, but he won’t talk about her.
Another possibility is to contact your GP or ring Marie Curie Bereavement service. They are very good. All my best wishes and kindest regards: Stephen
Hi im sorry to hear you are struggling, what you describe is exactly the same as how I feel,
Just had a burst out in work, I find it so hard to deal with the no warning waves,
Id be also grateful for some tips too,
Take it easy, we are all in this together 
Sorry for your loss, it’s actually common to be very anxious following a bereavement. You’re worrying about your mum and brother as they’re your support network too. Losing your cousin so soon after your auntie’s death just compounds your fears. Your GP might be willing to prescribe something for the anxiety to help you get through the next few months. You sound as if you had a great relationship with your auntie. Take care.
Thank you for your reply and advice Stephen and I’m very sorry for the loss of your mum. I lost my dad when I was 24 so know how hard and heartbreaking it is losing a parent. Sounds like you had a lovely relationship with your mum. Take care.
Thank you for your reply Nikki, I’m so sorry for your loss and sorry that you too are struggling, take care.
Thank you for your reply Norma and your advice. My auntie was my world and even though we knew she was gonna pass you can never prepare yourself, I’m just absolutely heartbroken and as I don’t have a lot of family left now I think that’s why I’m feeling even more anxious. Take care.
Hello Topaz2111. Thanks for your reply. Me and mam were very close for 60 years. All my life. Mam’s funeral was this afternoon. Just got back. An emotional day, but the service was very moving. The love mam had for us and our love for her shone through in the service. It was good at the end to spend a last few minutes with mam. We placed our hands on the lid and thought about her and we had a chance to kiss her nameplate on the lid too. God bless: Stephen
Aww bless you Stephen, I can tell how much you love your mum and that love will never stop. Sounds like a beautiful send off for your mum. Take care.
Sending you all my thanks for your support Kindest regards: Stephen