Hi there, first time posting. It’s been a heck of a year. My husband lost his father on the 9th of December 2023 after an 18 month battle with MND. The disease was horrific stripped him of all his dignity but never his faith or character and I very much miss him. Fast forward to 6th November 2024 and my dad passed away suddenly and unexpectedly. My husband and his family have tried to be supportive of me and my family but it seems to have brought up all the feelings of loss they are feeling as well. My husband tonight has drank too much, sat crying about his dad and the fact the anniversary is tomorow and as much as I want to be sympathetic am struggling. I’m mad, I feel like the expectation of me is I will just get on with it that I’m the strong one and that I can cope, and I can I am doing but when the person you love the most in the world is sat there crying into your shoulder when the pain of your own loss is only just a month old is really hard. I don’t feel selfish for feeling that way I’m cross, I can’t be strong enough for both of us right now. I’m trying to support my own family as we navigate our new normal. I don’t know what to do with these feelings
Hello @Munkee11,
I’m Seaneen, the Online Community manager. Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’ve had an awful lot to cope with. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. You’re not alone - many of our members have sadly lost their dads and will understand some of what you’re going through. Your feelings of anger at not getting the support you need right now are totally understandable.
I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” - I’m sure someone will have some thoughts to share. Please do keep posting, the community is here for you.