Today is the 3 month anniversary of my mother’s death. I’m finding it all so difficult. And the sadness is overwhelming. I feel lonely, scared, abandoned and hopeless. I’m beginning to wonder whether i will EVER be able to move on from this. Life feels pretty pointless now to be honest. How’s everyone else here doing?
Hello, I lost my mum two months ago and I am struggling too. I think we need to be kind to ourselves and not expect too much of ourselves too soon. Take care.
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Dear @Seaside23
I am so sorry to hear of your mum’s death and that you are finding it all so difficult. You are in the early stages of grief and it is a horrible rollercoaster ride of emotions with good and bad days. In time you will be able to move on. Grief is a journey and not a race to be taken at your pace, please be gentle with yourself.
You can connect with members here who have been in a similar situation as yourself by using the search bar above. The support here is incredible.
There are a few resources by Sue Ryder I would like to share with you that may be of help and support to you at this time.
- The self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief Grief Guide
- Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS. This service is also useful for family and friends
- Information on the Stages of Grief
- Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
- There is also a blog on Losing a Parent which may be of help and support to you.
There is also an organisation called At A Loss which has useful resources and support. You can chat live to a Grief Chat Bereavement Counsellor Monday-Friday 9am-9pm for free. It would be worth looking at their website.
The Samaritans are available to chat to for free on 116 123. The are available 24 hours a days, 365 days a year.
Please continue to reach out. You are not alone, we are all here for you and understand what you are going through.
Take care of yourself.
Peppers x
Hi, i lost my mum early January, im not coping, tearful , lonely, no one understands me, or thats the way it feels. all think im coping well but inside im screaming, i cant see forward , i cared for mum and we lived together, also my husband, hes also my world too, but the house is empty, quiet , im at a loss, rooms ar empty once filled with life, rhe hurt and pain is horrible, i jope you find your way and me too xx
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So sorry you’re going through this. It’s horrid isn’t it.
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I feel that struggle to, and the hopelessness of no one understanding what I feel as you get the usual sympathy from people and then they think it’s all over after a month or so. Then you are left with deep grief alone.
I hide it mainly and have melt downs in private. Probably not good for me but a good cry seems to help.
Anyway, I’m so relieved I found this app to talk to people who actually understand and going thru/feel the same.
Sorry to go on it’s just such a relief to say how I feel to people that actually understand
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Indeed! Thanks goodness for this group.
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Been such a help.
I hope you are ok
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Im glad ive found people who understand/know where im coming from. Its lonely after the funeral. Its like right lets get back to normal, life will never be normal again, but hopefully in time ill cope through each day. Feel run down at the moment though, husbands back at work and im back to days on my own which was normally spent with mum. The house is just the same as if mums here, i cant move anything, when will i feel ready 
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I am really struggling. I lost my mum on nye 2024 i cannot cope, i keep breaking down. My dad is in bits we had an argue yesterday as my dad was picking holes. My dad broke down, i felt glity. Its horrible seeing my dad so broken. They were together since 17. Ny dad is 82. I never know what to say to my dad when his broken, i keep crying and he says stop crying.