Hi all!
My life changed in May with a phone call of the police. The had found my dads body… I was very much a daddy’s girl, we spoke on the phone 5+ times a day! Even though it happened 5 months ago I don’t really think that it has sunk in yet, I’m still waiting for the phone call off him, or him to walk into my flat. Since it was the police who found him, there has had to be a post mortem and I am currently waiting on a date for the inquest. That could take up to a year, but in my head, I think the inquest will finally let my mind and body grieve. I have days where I am down but I haven’t really cried or anything. Is this normal because I am feeling so guily about it!
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
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I’m really sorry for your loss it’s a horrible thing to get a phone call like that.
My stepmum called me 4 weeks ago saying that my dad died in a car accident, still can’t believe it. I have cried a few times but not a lot, and I too feel quilty about it. But I think it’s just our brain protecting us, because how can we even begin to process what just happened? I think when we are ready we will cry or maybe not, but it’s normal.
We both loved our dad’s very much and they loved us too, that’s all that matters
So sorry for your loss. I lost my dad a few months back and there has to be investigations so I felt like my grieving paused for a while. I think at times its as though we run out of tears and feel a bit raw and empty. You are completely normal. Possibly an element of shock too. Please take care, sending love to you
When I lost my dad, I slept and cried inconsolably on the sofa for months. My entire life shifted and the physical pain was so great I thought my heart would burst in my chest. Mom passed soon after and the tears weren’t a river for months. My husband died last month and I haven’t cried since the funeral.
Normal? Must be, as there are lots of us not crying when we should be inconsolable.
It might be shock. I don’t know. Numb is how I feel. Something died in me when my husband passed and all my emotions went with him. Blank. Empty.
Hoping your today is better than yesterday and tomorrow will be better than today.
it’s a horrible thing to get a phone call like that.