Struggling to cope with the loss of my beautiful nana

Losing a grandparent
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Hi ,
I lost my nana on the 21st October 2022 and I’m really struggling with the greif as I was so close to my nana and we was always together and spoke everyday.

My nana was the only person I could turn too about absolutely anything and everything and now she’s not here i feel empty and lost without her i do have family but i just cannot talk to them how I did with my nana .

My nana was the most amazing person and kind hearted and would always put the needs of others before herself.

I have so many wonderful memories which I will cherish forever but going to the places we went together regularly i just even begin to face to go back to them places maybe in time when it’s not raw but the pain I feel is like no other .

I’m trying my best to keep it together for my grandad as to say he’s devastated is an understatement as they was together for 70 years and married for 65 years.

It’s my nanas funeral next week and I’m just not ready for the final goodbye and I don’t think i will ever be ready to say goodbye I’ve visited my nana regularly in the rest home as I feel it dose give me that bit of comfort that I’m near my nana again.

This is my first loss that I’ve suffered where I’m really close to the person who’s passed away so I’ve never been through the grief process before.

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Hi
I’m sorry for your loss
You don’t say goodbye, you will feel her love every time you think or mention her. It will be hard but you love her and she loved you x
It’s not good bye she will stay in your heart forever and no matter what she would want you to be happy x

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Hi ,

Thank you for your reply, to me the funeral seems final in a way but also a celebration of my nanas life and what a impact she had on people she knew and loved .

I know my nana will never be far as I will keep her in my heart and I know I will be in hers as she would always say I’m the daughter she never had and to be honest my nana was more like my mam as she practically brought me up .

One blessing is she got to see me get married in July of this year and none of us not even my nana had a clue how poorly she was as we was all up dancing having a good time then 2 weeks after the wedding she got rushed in to hospital then she put up a brave fight for 10 weeks after her lung cancer as my nana was a fighter and really did fight till the end. X

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