I lost my husband 8 weeks ago and from late afternoon onwards unbearable anxiety starts I panic I cry I don’t know what to do with myself I feel lost scared I can’t go out much I just don’t know how to start to deal with this xx
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Hey thank you for having me in your group I really appreciate it if I spoke about everything in my life you couldn’t write it I’ve been cursed since I was born I don’t like getting attached to no one cuz I’m a jinx NGL xxx
Hi Lynsey
I’m so sorry for your loss.
It’s very common to have anxiety when experiencing grief. It’s your body’s natural response to shock/trauma. So try to get yourself to accept it as part of the process. It is awful, I know. But there are many ways to cope with it. Have a look online for breathing techniques and meditations. Go for a walk or try distracting yourself by keeping busy. There are many supplements - again have a look online or ask in your local health food shop (Holland & Barratts). If none of these help then of course speak to your GP.
After only 8 weeks you will still be really raw, allow yourself to cry, you need to express your sadness. Have you considered counselling? Or do you have a close friend or close family member that you can talk to? It does help.
On a different note, what part of Wales are you from? I’m in Swansea.
Take care.
Hi I’m in Blaenau Gwent I am trying all you have said thankyou iv got a app on my phone last night for anxiety help now il try and keep busy now during that bad time I get anxious and upset I don’t do that so that is worth a try it’s so painful
Hi. I know exactly how you feel. I lost my husband suddenly 2 weeks ago and I feel the same.
I would go to your GP. The shock of losing my hubby suddenly made me so unwell. The GP prescribed me diazepam on a very low dose but has since changed it to a relaxant which I take it at night. It helps with that crippling anxiety that makes you breathless that you are experiencing.
It’s a horrible thing to experience. Sending my love to you.
I feel the same the anxiety is crippling the tight chest with it it makes you think your having a heart attack all the time also for me I think of death all the time now and pain and awful
Thoughts of what happened and dark memories that I cannot get out of my head it plays over and over I go to sleep for a little while like it I wake like it there’s no escape xxxxx
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Hi,
I lost my mother who was really a close friend of mine actually. I came to her for almost everything. She was so wise. She died with an illness and it was miserable for me and her. I feel lost, in a bubble, moments of respite then moments of sadness, like the weather or the tide. You have no idea the emotions I felt on the day I saw her in hospital. But my support could be to not judge the process. Do not hurry it up or interfere with it. Write a diary, flowers, things like that to keep a point you can come back to or you will be all over the place. My grief is a different category, but I think the emotions are similar.
Lynsey May
So very sorry for your loss , totally understand about the anxiety and panic attacks
Suffer with them,my Doctor gave me antidepressants,but I still do get these anxiety,
Attacks,I find going out for a walk helps ,or meet up with friends,
When I have a bad attack I cannot go out of the house, it’s a awful feeling,I have every sympathy for you,
Hugs,
Take care,
Susie
Hello,
I’m so sorry for your loss and I feel your pain. I am similar, 6 weeks in and the anxiety kicks in around 2pm. It takes me all day to do anything. Going from caring 24 hours a day, to nothing is unbearable. Brain fog constantly. I’ve started a paint by numbers project, helps me focus and passes time. At 2pm I paint a little. Going out is so difficult, just want to avoid people at present. Some lovely advice from the community is to take each day hour by hour or even minute by minute. I’m trying it and it’s helping. Keep strong. xx