I lost two of my closet friends earlier in the year, they died exactly a week apart. They were around the same age as me 50’s, I’ve always been pretty good at processing grief and have always been able to get to a place in few months where I can think about people with happiness, but this time it isn’t happening no matter what I try, it’s affecting everything to the point where it is becoming a problem. I don’t know if it because they were my age, that I have elderly parents and can’t pretend they’ll be around forever anymore or what it is, but it is starting to affect things like work that I can’t afford for it to do, I’m totally at a loss what to try.
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Hi @Yorkshirebetty, I’m Seaneen. I can see you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I’m sorry for the losses that bring you here. Losing two of your closest friends so close together is a lot to cope with and it’s understandable that you’re struggling.
It’s really brave that you’ve recognised that how you’re feeling is becoming a problem. It can take a lot to admit that we might need more support to cope. I’m not sure what you’ve tried before, but you’ve said you’re feeling at a loss as what to try. It may be a good start to make an appointment with your GP and share what you’ve told us here. They should be able to connect you with support services in your area. AtALoss also has a directory of bereavement support on their website which might be helpful to look at.
You’re not alone, please do keep reaching out.
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So sorry for your loss. Friends are like family, in some cases more so, as we get to choose our friends so losing both of them so close together, it’s understandable how it has affected you. I also believe as we get older our world begins to shrink as we lose loved one’s. It also forces us to look inwards at our own mortality, all of which is a normal reaction. My reaction was bad anxiety, overthinking everything and scared about the future. I eventually went to the Dr’s as like you it affected work and my relationships with others. Never experienced anxiety before and I was put on medication for it. It definitely helped and took the edge of everything, so may be worth a visit to your GP. Be kind to yourself and take care