I never thought this would happen. Less than a year ago was the proudest day of my life when i married my wife. 8 months later I woke up and she didnt. At 35 years of age she left this world leaving me and our 8 year old son. We did everything together, we weren’t just husband and wife we were best friends. We did absolutely everything together as a family. She did everything for me and our son, i went to work and she always made sure we were looked after. Im struggling to cope without the love of my life. Our house isnt the same. It feels like im always on the edge of breaking down. I just seriously miss her and i hate that shes gone, she lived for making sure our son had everything he needed. And she never got to say goodbye to us. I cant see the pain and hurt ever getting easier. Im dreading our 1st wedding anniversary. We are in our 30s we always talked about the rest of our lives. Now i have to live each day without her. People keep trying to tell me how i should feel or what I should do but they’ve never experienced what im going through. They don’t understand the pain and hurt. I want to talk to people who do understand
Pete, so sorry for your loss.
I lost my wife nearly 8 weeks ago and it’s devastated me. We would had been married 58 years in September.
Many here have suffered similar losses and can offer much more advice than I can, as I am still raw from sobbing.
When I first came here, it comforted me, if that’s the right words, that I was not unique. Others experience similar outpourings of grief and as I said, it comforted me.
So I know it’s really difficult at the moment, but talking to others here who do know what it’s like, helps. Take care
Hi John,
Thanks for your message and im so sorry for your loss, especially after being side by side for 58 years. Our first wedding anniversary would have been in June… it was supposed to be the first of many many more. Its been just under 3 months and after the funeral it seemed like everyone went on with their lives and im left here going through whats happened. I just can’t accept that my wife my best friend has gone. My son is dealing with it absolutely admirably. Im angry sad broken proud to of been her husband. And if i knew what i know now when we first met id do it all over again for the rest of my life. Take care John
Hello Pete
So sorry to hear of the loss of your wife, and at such a young age.
There are so many of us on here who can understand your pain and disbelief in what has happened, we know how unbearable the pain of this loss is.
I lost my beautiful husband in January this year, I got up to go to work and found him asleep forever in his chair, the shock was unbelievable the life we had planned was taken from us so cruelly. I miss him so much the pain takes my breath away.
I send you and your son my deepest condolences, I hope you find some solace from this forum.
Much love to you both xxx
Pete, people do seem to move on with their lives, but they don’t mean any harm by it. Sometimes they don’t know what to say or you might not know either.
I find in situations like that, I want to be on my own for a bit and just cry…
Yesterday I went down to Wales for the internment of my wife’s ashes today in the church where we got married. So in essence we had 2 funeral services; the first where I live in Northants and today in South Wales.
Today was more emotional for me as it was my ‘last farewell’ and also more family and friends were there who couldn’t make the first service.
I was supposed to stay another night with the friend I stayed with last night, but I wanted to go home and cry in my own bed, rather than cause my friend too much grief. He lost his partner back in January, so still raw himself.
I drove 110 miles back home after the wake, crying and ‘shouting’ at my wife for not being there with me.
Yeah, ive got a 10 year old and our world died in February! Every day i just get up and try and live like he would have wanted. Its so hard, work have been great but i feel so hurt and angry
Hi, I’m sorry for your situation. It’s heartbreaking to think your wife died so young and so early in your marriage. To all the young widows I always worked suggest joining the Widowed and Young (WAY) group ( there is a subscription fee) there are forums and meet ups with other widows under 50 with or without children.
Hello Pete, there are no words or expressions I can communicate to you, only that I am so sorry for your and son’s loss. What you wrote and meant is how I feel too! I’m so confused and overwhelmed with my wife’s departure, people have told me that I should be glad I was home when she died, but she died in my arms. I tried to save her and I couldn’t, my world broke down while she looked at me with her beautiful eyes as I attempted to bring her back, she died in our living room, she collapsed as I ran for my clothes we were going to the doctor because she wanted to wait til morning of the 13th of February almost 3 months ago, but her stomach pain led to a artery breakdown, medical personnel say her aorta ruptured and there was nothing they could do to prevent her death, I follow the ambulance to the hospital, but when I arrived her lifeless body was on a emergency room table, I spent the hour they gave me with my baby, I couldn’t leave her, I saw how my wonderful wife was laying on that bed, I saw her eyes again and her precious hands, I thought it was a dream and I would soon wake up, but it wasn’t
The pain and loneliness is greater than anyone can imagine, if you forgive me I can say you know.
She also did everything for me, she made sure that I was always well taken care of, in every aspect of this world
Now, this world is empty, my companion, my friend, my wonderful wife, my all in all is gone
I feel empty, lost, confused and worse I am all alone. I sit on the couch in the living room which brings so many memories and reminds me of what happened, I am surrounded by her all over the place, her clothes, her shoes, her coats are still hanging in the hallway I don’t have the courage to take them off, when I walk around the house I think she is in the other room or in the kitchen cooking for me and when I realize she’s not here I break down as I’m doing right now, oh my god please help us. Take care of both of you, I will try here in Germany
I don’t know where else to be but where I shared my life with Heidi