My mum died died in a car accident when i was three and today marks 18 years since she died. I think the thing I struggle with most is that i dont remember her so i feel like i cant even grieve her properly. I also struggle with this being my last year of university and that she wont be at my graduation. I feel like i cant celebrate any achievements because its overshadowed with her not being her. Does anyone feel this way?
Hello @Ljulie ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling without your mum 18 years on, especially around special events and achievements. I’m so sorry to hear about your Mum, unfortunately, grief has no time limit. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
@Ljulie sorry for the loss of your Mum when you were so young. Obviously anniversary dates can bring all kinds of emotions to the surface. It’s very sad that your Mum has missed out on her little girl growing up. Yet think how proud she would be of everything you’ve achieved… I say, celebrate everything and acknowledge there will always be a tinge of sadness, knowing your Mum isn’t present. My sons’ lost their Dad ten years ago and they’ve had to do the same. My eldest son had his graduation, then more recently his wedding, without his Dad. It’s poignant but we know his Dad would be very proud. I’m guessing your Mum would be the same so honour her memory by showing the world her legacy, her daughter. Best wishes xx