I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer about 6 weeks ago now and I’m still finding it very difficult to come with his loss. For some context around my situation, he was only diagnosed at the end of August and at the time I was 22 years old and had only just started my first ever full time job. Additionally, I have autism spectrum disorder and a bit of a history with mental health issues. It’s reaching the point where I’m breaking down regularly and even in positive situations where I should be happy I just don’t feel the same anymore. It’s having an impact on my work life too as I’ve had multiple days where I’ve had to work from home due to being in such a bad headspace when I get up that I just feel like I can’t bring myself to get to the office for the day (usually we only do one day a week from home). One of my concerns from this is that I’m feeling a lot of anxiety and guilt around it as if I shouldn’t have these exceptions made for me and I’m also worried that it’s just going to stay like this and I’m never going to feel better about it
Hello @Maxl2 ,
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your dad that brings you here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Abi
Hi @Maxl2 I am sorry for the loss of your Dad. I lost my Dad nearly three years ago and I returned to work way too soon. I placed huge expectations on myself and did not grieve properly looking back. I hope that your manager is supportive of your situation. I just wanted to say that you have no need to ‘be happy’ at such an early stage after you have lost your Dad. Things dont feel the same as you say and you just find it is enough to get through each day. It will take time … and only in your own time… you will start to hopefully accept more what has happened, however be kind on yourself on this journey. I hope you have support to help you.