Hi, I have just joined this online site as I am really struggling to come to terms with the loss of my daughter was passed at the end of September. Some days I really don’t know what to do and really need to start the process of counselling and learning to come to terms with my loss.
Hello Amanda02
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few resources with you that might be helpful.
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Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief: https://griefguide.sueryder.org/
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Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS: https://sueryder.grief.coach/
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat: https://www.sueryder.org/online-bereavement-counselling
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through - https://www.sueryder.org/how-we-can-help/bereavement-information
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care, Rhi
Hi there,
I’m so sorry you lost your daughter, and such a short time ago. No wonder you are struggling. Outliving your child goes against all the laws of the universe.
My son Joey died on October 13th - almost four weeks ago and I am still in an intense period of grief. I do find that this site helps. My son was 41, and I write daily with two other mothers my age with sons of approximately the same age too. I’m the newest member of the ´club’ but the others aren’t far behind., Your friends may offer sympathy but no one NO ONE can possibly understand what it is like to lose a child unless they have too.
I wish you lots of strength - we all need superhuman strength to get through the terrible grief of losing our children. But sharing helps! 
Hi,how do you cope with this? …my son died 11/10… still got to have funeral next week…just keep crying
hi Lou Lou, - so very sorry to hear about the loss of yiur
SORRY about silly error. Your loss is still in its early days and you will feel a lot of difficult emotions.It is a horrible thing to loose a child and coming on here can help you to realise that all your emotions and reactions are normal although you might feel that you are feeling slightly mad. Having said that we are all different so my advice is to cry when you want to, feel what you need to feel, get as much support as you can and do not think too far into the future .I was told to take things one day at a time, give yourself time to grieve. I lost two sons within 10 weeks of eachother in 2021…and am still grieving but accepting support from where I can is helping me to come to terms with my loss But sure it is absolutely ok to let those tears flow. Bless you a nd your boy.x
How do you cope with losing two sons .my goodness…thank you for advice …got to keep going
Take it easy will be thinking of youx