First time here .
I lost my son in 2022 and im totally still grieving.
My life is all about thinking and missing him … i just cant move forward .
My husband has only just come out to say hes struggling, hes soon to start councilling as advised by his GP.
Me , i now feel i cant express my feelings to him , i dont want him to feel worse . He has been my rock , my shoulder and my support . I did not realise he felt like this , i feel guilty and also feel ive nowhere to go so my head isnt in a good place .
I had councilling but im thinking of applying for more .
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Hello @XJudeX ,
I’m so sorry to hear about your son. It sounds as though things are very difficult at the moment and you feel like you can’t move forward.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. You might already be familiar with our other Online Bereavement Support services, but if not, you can find out more about our Online Counselling service, and our Grief Guide self-help tools by visiting the link.
Another good place to get support is The Compassionate Friends. They support families who have lost a child of any age. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.
Take care - keep reaching out,
Alex
I am so sorry to hear about your son. We are in the earlier stages of grief as our darling son died at the end of November last year. Apart from at the very beginning, my husband has never really expressed enough emotion over our son’s death - not in my opinion anyway. No doubt he feels just as terrible as me deep inside, but he is able to suppress it. It seems to be a typical man thing to want to remain strong, but it can backfire. I do hope both you and your husband can get some effective counselling. Are there other people, friends and family, who you could talk to, rather than your husband?
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XjudeX
It is 16 weeks since my beautiful Lauren died. My husband was very upset as you can imagine, but was strong for me. He then started showing his grief more and more which has been good for both of us. I have not started hiding my grief and still use him as my rock, but he has admitted he feels better that we ‘share’ our grief.
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