Sorry guys, I’m just really struggling tonight.
It’s been nearly 4 months since I lost my dad and it’s not getting any easier
I don’t know what I want or need but maybe someone to listen I don’t know
I feel lost, I feel like it’s not fair, I feel like I have to keep it all together for my mum, I feel so confused
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I’m so sorry you’re struggling. I know what that’s like and you do feel very responsible for your other parent. It is very hard, but together you will be able to support each other and move through the very difficult feelings you will have. Sending you love and best wishes x
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Hi, I am so very sorry to learn of your loss of your dad, sincerest sympathy to you and your family.
I lost my husband 15 months ago, I have a daughter age 20 she was 19 at the time. She also felt like you, and she still does most days, as do i. This is such a confusing, traumatic and lonely journey we have all found ourselves on and none of us really know what we are doing.
It really isn’t fair, and it’s very difficult to process such a huge loss. Be kind to yourself and your mum and just be present and help out your mum with practical tasks around the home. Try and make sure you both hydrate and eat if you can, sleep when you can. It really is a tough road, take it half hour at a time and try and not put too much pressure on yourself. I don’t know what type of relationship you have with your mum but If you can then tell her how you feel, she will want to know, I promise you. It’s okay to not be okay. Sending love and strength xx
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I was 19 when I lost my dad many years ago. I tried my very best to support my mum, and we were very close. I lost my mum last year when she was 94. X
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I am so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs x
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