Recently, at the age of 27. I unexpectedly and very suddenly lost my lovely mum. At the shocking age of just 50!
I have had to deal with everything, almost completely being on my own. Although I have a caring partner and a young daughter. I am my mums only immediate family, I’ve struggling with dealing with so many emotions and feelings but the feeling that is stuck with me so bad is guilt.
At this moment, I’m really really struggling with how when someone dies the world for the person grieving feels like it’s stopped. But for everyone else , the world is carrying on and everything goes back to normal for them. For me, *I feel like nothing is going to be normal again. *
I wish I didn’t feel so sad, guilty, empty. Lots of horrible emotions.
Has anyone felt like this? Does the feelings ever really go away 
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Dear @Rhiannafxx
I am sorry to hear of the loss of your mum and that you are struggling . Grief is a horrible journey of emotions, it is a rollercoaster ride with good days and bad days. All of which is normal. Grief is a journey to be taken at your pace.
There are resources by Sue Ryder which may be of help to you at this time.
There is a useful Grief Guide that contains information to help you understand and cope with your bereavement and grief. When you feel ready, it would be worth having a look at it.
It might be helpful for you to book and appointment with your doctor to let them know how you feel and to see how they can support you if you have not done so already. You may wish to consider one to one Counselling. Sue Ryder offer free online Bereavement Counselling which you may be interested in. It would be worth having a look at it.
There is also a blog on Losing a Parent which may be of help and support to you along with Stages of Grief
Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS. This is helpful for family and friends too.
I fully understand how the world stops when you lose a loved one and that everyone just carries on as normal, that’s how I felt when my dad died. I was angry with the world for a while. In time you learn to adjust and accept that life goes. The pain and feelings do cease but that does not mean you forget or love your mum any less.
You need to be gentle with yourself and take one day at a time.
We all understand your pain having lost a loved one. You are not alone. Keep reaching out to us. Take care.
Peppers x
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Rhiannafxx
I understand how you feel,my Mum passed away 7 weeks ago.
My Brother dealt with all the issues needed to be done,so i didnt have that pressure on top of the Grief.
My Mum was my friend too,i would talk to her for hours at a time …
I feel lost without my Mum,lonely,sad and struggle to feel happy about anything.
That is why i reached out to this site.
People tell me that you learn to cope with the loss,its early days at the moment.
I hope that you have people around you for some support…
Take care of yourself.xx
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Hello lovely.
So sorry for your loss! I unfortunately dealt with everything with my mum, it feels like the pain is never going to end. Mums are so special aren’t they.
In time, I hope the pain lessens but I can’t see that right now.
But one bit of advice I can give you is… take time for yourself, allow you to grieve and be kind to yourself.
Reach out anytime you need a friendly ear!!
Sending love
Rhianna xx
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Thank you,thats so kind of you.xx
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Hiya hun
Firstly I’m so so sorry for your loss. I with I had the right words to say!!
Life is very cruel sometimes 
I hope soon, you find strength but I’m sure you’re doing incredible. Feel free to msg anytime even if you just need a friendly ear.
Sending lots of love
Rhianna xx 
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Hi jac1
I feel no one loves me and cares about me as my Mum did.
My grown up son&daughter live busy lives with their children,so they havent the time to worry or think about how i am.
I just feel Lost in the world without my support i had from my Mum as she was my friend too for the 62 years ive been around…
Take care of you xx
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so i think its totally & understandably normal 