My daughter has just lost her boyfriend who was tragically killed in an accident at just 22 years old. Im grieving for the loss of him and seeing my 22 year old daughter having to go through this. As her mum i really feel her pain so bad. its like im grieving twice over. I think this will be even worse after monday (4th sept 23) when we have the funeral. .i know i need to be strong for her but i feel like im cracking up on the inside. I have also lost 2 friendships as well.
Thank you for reaching out. I’m so sorry that your daughter has lost her boyfriend in an accident - that is devastating.
When it comes to something as tough as grief, it can be hard to know what to say or do that might help someone you love. You might find our Grief Kind resources helpful:
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- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Take good care and keep reaching out - you are not alone.
So sorry for your loss. And you ARE grieving twice over, so don’t blame yourself. As a good parent, you will feel for your daughter too. There are all kinds of ways of being strong - be honest with her, and let her be honest with you, because that’s one of them. In time I’m sure that being able to share your memories of your loved one together will give you both new strength. And friends who leave you at such times aren’t really friends at all.