This horrible horrendous situation ‘we’ all find ourselves is truly heartbreaking
Our hearts are broken 
Will they ever ‘mend’
Take care everyone
Xx
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Just what I thought things couldn’t get any worse they do
Since my partner passed away her two daughters from her first marriage have been causing so much trouble because of these two I very nearly ended my own life so I could join Ann
I used to get on with both daughters but when my partner passed away they both turned against me and I keep getting text messages from them demanding I hand over all my partner’s belongings even though Ann’s will state’s that her belongings pass on to me and asking for me to gift them to an animal charity shop for them to make some money
Her daughter’s turned up to my house last night with a lot of boxes and said they have come to remove their mum’s belongings I had to phone the police because they tried to force me to let them into the house
This morning I’ve received a message saying they are going to take legal advice even though the police said after looking at the will they have no right to any of their mum’s belongings
Since Ann passed away I’ve suffered very badly from anxiety and loneliness and I’m now being monitored by the mental health team why is it when someone passes away it brings out the worst in family my life will never be the same without Ann and I don’t think I can carry on without her especially now
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Aww Boo2
Keep strong you have the law on your side
It’s families ……… deep down they are all the same
You are managing without these 2
Please keep strong however hard it is
These 2 are showing their true colours please be ‘the bigger person’ and respond to them don’t react
I know that’s easier said than done
Lolxx
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@Boo2 sorry for your loss, easier said than done but ignore the daughters, obviously bothered more about materialistic things than their mam or your well being! They should respect her wishes of wanting her things to go
To charity!! I’ve also had to deal with my partners Toxic family since he left me on the 4/12/23 
I’ve found the route of cutting all contact and ignoring them has been best for me, for all I’d love to retaliate, I won’t give them the satisfaction of them them playing the victim!! I don’t understand people behaviour, it certainly does bring out the worst in people! They say people grieve different and they do, but possessions mean nothing to me anymore!! Pity the daughters didn’t feel the same way! I hope you find the strength to get thru this, it’s going to be a very long lonely road for us all, but we’ve got to get thru it, you need to think what Ann would say and do! This is what I say about mine, he was very headstrong, he will be telling me to get up, get ready! Take no s@@t!! It’s very hard though!! But you can do it! Easy said though I know this, as I’m the same most days, but we move! We have too! 
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Bess1 and Ang5
Thanks for your kind words and I will be ignoring them the only thing they keep asking for is Ann’s valuables and any money
she has left if they hadn’t been as they are in time I would have given them something I’ve not even had time to grieve it’s only been nine weeks
Hope you both take care of yourselfs
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@Boo2 money and valuables should be the last things on their minds, some people however are motivated by these things, I’d give up all my possessions to have my better half back, and I’m sure everyone here would think the same, your following Ann’s wishes, it’s what she wanted, what Ann wants should be all that matters to them! It’s 7 weeks today for me, it’s a very lonely scary place isn’t it, I just hope we get stronger, we will never forget or move on but hopefully in time, we get stronger to carry on, my partner was 42, same age as me, I think we’ve been robbed of happiness, I won’t ever be happy again for the rest of my life, the way he made me happy, even little things like getting a McDs coffee, they’re the big things! We might of seemed boring to some people, but it was our happiness! His 43rd birthday is coming up in February and I’m not sure how I’m going to cope with that, his “first” away, our favourite place was whitby so I may go there for the day, I hope your feeling ok today, 
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Hi Ang5
So very very raw for you got to say i think i was just numb for the first year the second year ( for me) hit bloody hard and 18 months on will be on the 24th Thursday
It was Paul’s birthday in February the 23rd ……. His birth certificate said 22nd as his dad forgot the day
Registrar hadn’t come across this when I went after Paul’s death so more complications followed
When you asked him his birthday it was 23rd
His twin Richard has the same on his birth certificate
Apparently you can pay £90 to get it changed which Clare Richard’s wife was going to do…… she hasn’t yet so I must remind her
Whitby do you live close as I’m near Northallerton
Paul loved Whitby ……
He also lived Brixham ( Devon) visited many times on holiday and he always said reminded him of Whitby
Yes like you I would give ‘possessions’ up to have my Paul back
As you say we all would
lol to all
Xx
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@Bess1 were from Sunderland so only an hour and half from whitby in the car, he was the driver though, I don’t drive so it’ll be a train journey when I do go
Which is about 3hrs I’m told, hopefully there’s an early morning train then so I can get there early 
love that smell when you first arrive, the fish quay, the fish and chips, the vinegar! a few people say the second year is the hardest, I absolutely dread everyday wondering how I’m going to feel, the loneliness, the never seeing his face again or hearing his jokes and laughter, sometimes I can’t bare to look at his pics cos It’s a painful reminder but I then I feel guilty for not wanting to look at his pics,
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Ang5
I hope you are feeling ok today my son was the same age as your partner when he died in September then I lost my partner nine weeks ago I’m struggling with the grief and loneliness I don’t have any friends or family to help me cope I’m hoping in the summer to visit places Ann used to love going to Great Yarmouth was one of them and she loved going down to London looking around the market’s I’ve been told to try and visit these places to think about the good times we had there I’ve heard many people say they were going to visit places they used to go to as a couple maybe it helps you to come to terms with the loss of your partner
Hope you are feeling ok today and hope you are looking after yourself
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Everyday is a struggle without my wife here I don’t know why she passed and may not ever know it’s so hard to except the pain is unbearable and it makes me question what is the point anymore, what is my purpose now, how do I carry on without her. We have a 9 year old daughter and she is the reason I get through each day, but when she is with her Dad every other weekend I just think what’s the point. I can’t even contemplate going back to work it blows my mind. My wife passed on the 7th of December she was my world. I received a call from my wife’s Mum 2 days ago to tell me my wife’s niece was found passed away in her flat I hope she didn’t do anything stupid because of her loss of her auntie. She was at my wife’s funeral last week and it doesn’t make sense, none of this makes any sense my wife was young fit and healthy and her niece was even younger. How are you meant to even comprehend such devastation. I don’t understand.
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@Boo2 how sad you lost your son then your wife seems very cruel and makes us wonder why us? What did we do to deserve this cruelty? If we all lived closer I’m sure we would all meet up and be there for each other it’s very lonely, I’m on the sick at work and only one person checks up on me, the rest seem to forget I exist, I know people have lives etc so I can’t expect people to constantly ask! It’ll be nice to visit the places they loved, also very sad thinkin they’re not here to look at the places anymore, it’s raining up here and another storm
On way so it’s made my mood darker, I’m not looking forward to summer though cos he loved the sun and won’t be here to see it what are we going to do with ourselves! @Karen1976 sorry for your loss, that’s awful for you and young daughter you won’t have any cause of death for a good 6-12 weeks after the coroner reports etc, I’ve just getting my partners back last week and he passed away suddenly on the 4th December, no warnings no nothing, I just found him Gone in bed and I too was thinking well how is this possible? Has he done something? I knew he wouldn’t cos he has an 11yr old son, turned out he had a heart problem nobody knew about, absolutely broke me last week cos then I thought about had we missed symptoms and signs! Looking back, we did! But he never had chest pains or anything, well not that he told me! It’s the worst feeling when it’s sudden, no goodbyes or nothing, I’ve got horrendous guilt! I’ve been off work since too and I can’t face it, not yet, thinking about he will never be waiting for me again in the car, hopefully you get answers soon from coroner, maybe ring them like I did to ask for any updates, you’ve got to carry on for your daughter, it’s very hard though when all we want is our other half’s back! Life is very unfair! Seems it’s the wrong ones all the time! Mine was a prison officer and I think about the people he locked up, and they’re still breathing! I shouldn’t think like that but I can’t help it!
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@Karen1976 im so sorry for your loss. It’s devastating for both of you but hopefully your daughter will help pull you through. I can’t understand why my husband was take , i knownhe was ill but why him? He had done nothing wrong. I can’t get my head around it. He diednin November and im due back at work next mont, im dreading it because i still struggle to get up in a morning and my concentration has gone. I know you have an enormous amount going on but look after yourself and uour daughter. One day at a time.
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Hi all
Just so devasting for everyone
I can’t look at many photos but I have them all around Paul’s still here……
Yes my second year is horrendous will the third be any different probably not
I’m lost lonely and alone
Nothing means anything any more and I’m not in the right place to go places and certainly for me at the moment visiting places Paul and I went to is way to painful
I don’t want a life without Paul and just cannot get my head around not ever seeing him again talking going out
As we all know the list is endless……
Take care folks
Xx
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Well it’s been a while since I posted a message on here I think what was going on with Ann’s daughter’s finally got to me I’m not proud of what I did and I’m not sure if I’m happy with the neighbour who phoned the ambulance and stopped me from joining Ann
I decided to take all my pain relief meds and I think it finally put a stop to her daughter’s treatment of me after the hospital saving my life I was interviewed by the mental health team and told them what made me feel like talking my own life they got the police involved and both daughters were cautioned and told to cease all attempts to contact me
I can honestly say to anyone thinking of doing as I did don’t please phone the Samaritans it’s not worth it
The only good thing is that now I am getting councilling to help me with struggling with grief and loneliness and I’ve been told to talk to someone about how I’m feeling instead of keeping my struggle with grief to myself and I know I’ve got a long way to go but having Ann’s daughter’s finally getting told to stay away is going to be a big help
@Boo2 i can’t believe that people can be so cruel to make you take all your tablets. The positive thought the police are involved and you are getting counselling. It’s a very difficult road we are on without people causing us pressure and upset . I hope you will get some relief now and have time to grief
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Boo2
This must’ve been so painful for you
This is as we all unfortunately know a very ‘delicate ‘ painful path we have found ourselves on
Take care
Xx
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