Hi all I am new here so forgive me for mistakes that I make… unexpectedly my partner of 16 years was taken to hospital with sore limb and they found 2 tumor on his brain, lungs Full of tumors and lymph nodes…how do u even process that…I can’t…he was gone in 24 hours
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Good morning @Sad17
So sorry for your loss 
Grief is the worst pain imaginable, the feelings and loneliness is hard to navigate.
You need to be kind to yourself. Little by little you’ll get through this. There are lots of ups and down and it’ll come in waves.
We are stronger than we think and braver than we believe.
I hope you have friends and family around you.
Keep reaching out on this. Everyone is supportive. Have a read of some other posts to see how others are coping.
Sending love and hugs 
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Hi I am so sorry for your loss and really do empathise with how you are feeling ( in fact everyone on this site will). I am 7 weeks in and my beloved partner died suddenly too and he hadn’t even been ill at all.
This is very early days and you will be in shock so just be kind to yourself. Only do what you want to do and if that’s nothing, then fine.
I wouldn’t have ever posted on a site before but have found it so supportive as everyone here really understands and never judges. If you are having a dreadful day just come on and say so and you will be supported through it.
Sending love and strength xx
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Oh that is just too hard, I am so sorry for your quick and sudden loss xx
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Thanks for your lovely words it’s like I am watching it on the TV as still not really sank in yet
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Thanks for your understanding it’s a bit much to take in … feel like I am going crazy
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It takes a while to sink it it’s bloody awful 
it’s just over 8 weeks for me.
Just know your not alone 
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Thanks I also sending my condolences to u for your loss…it’s like it’s someone else and I am watching it and it is not feeling real …
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Thanks it was anniversary 16 years 10th, cremation 14 th and he’d have been 46 on 20th so it feels like punishment after punishment
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Thank you
You may be in shock, your subconscious trying to protect you from pain.
There is many stages to grief you’ll feel lost, guilty, in shock, denial, lonely, longing, what ifs etc etc you’ll switch through each one over and over again. Could you have done more, you should have done that differently. It’s all part of learning to navigate through grief. You will get through it, no matter how hard it is
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Not got support at all
Aww @Sad17
Me and my Andrew were together for 18 years and he passed when he was 47, it was his birthday shortly after him passing. Andrew died from cancer , so quickly we didn’t no he had cancer we found out on the Wednesday and he died on the Sunday. It was just awful xx
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Sorry to hear that. Look online for bereavement support groups or talk to your GP.
There’s this site that will support you…look at other threads and contribute. There is always someone to talk to. I’ve found it really helpful xx
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Almost identical story to my own, no clue 16 years together and 46 he would be on 20th
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Thanks so much for your kindness and I appreciate it ure story so much like mine… it’s weird best wishes for you and I hope I can talk to you again…in ure own grief and your helping me 
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just wanted to say thank you for your help and your u are obviously not far along your own journey of grief…it’s nice to see someone who does understand so thank you so much
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Sorry I was not sure how to private message… We were the same …fit…calf strain to 24 hours later he was gone 2 brain tumors lung cancer and lymph nodes full of cancer…47 so young sorry for your loss …thank you for your amazing help
You don’t need to thank me. We are all in this together. The club none of us want to be in 
I’ll said you a pm saying hi, so if you want to chat just reply xx
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We are all here to catch each other on this shit journey x
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