Hello, I lost my mum to cancer in early October, she was diagnosed in July. It has been a tough year. The hardest thing has been dealing with difficult relatives who were sharing mum’s care with me, as she wanted to be at home for her final months we all coordinated to make this happen. Now she’s gone I seem to have run out of patience and am struggling to cope. I feel angry very quickly and have now stopped talking to my sister as she stresses me out so much. Her ideas about how to deal with mum’s affairs and house just seem ridiculous to me, I have told her now to get on with it without my input. My partner is also bearing the brunt of my lack of tolerance but I think he needs to accommodate my feelings a bit more than he is. Are these feelings and situations common? How do I cope?
Hello @Jac70 ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want to have a read of our grief guide - Family relationships and Grief: Sue Ryder Grief Guide which may offer you some help as you navigate family relationships.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Coping with kid’s dad Suicide after DA. Especially being a first time (covid baby) parent, Is it possible to find peace with the overwhelming responsibilities 
if so I’d happily take support as words and the lack of support surrounding me is crippling.
On some days especially knowing Christmas is around the corner.