Sudden and unexpected death of husband

Not sure how this works but I’m absolutely devastated at the sudden loss of my husband 12 days ago at the age of 42. Heartbroken


Hello Liz15,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread. I’m so sorry to hear about husband. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


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Hi @Liz15
I am so sorry for the sudden loss of your husband - it is such a shock to experience and try to make any sense of.
My husband died suddenly 8 weeks ago - he was a healthy 61 year old and we had been married for 18 blissful years.
It is a rollercoaster of emotions which is different hour by hour, day by day.
Our lives have been changed beyond recognition because we have lost the one constant in them. My consolation is that we loved each other so absolutely and deeply that he will always be with me in my heart and memories and I know he is about me.
You are not alone here - we all are travelling through the same heartbreak; please know that you are cared for. I feel your devastation and hope that you find comfort from the support you will find here.
PM me if you want to chat. Take care of you. Y x


Hi @Liz15 I’m so sorry you have had to join the club none of us wanted to be in. I can totally understand your heartbreak … and after only 12 days it will still be very raw.
My situation is very similar, although my husband was a bit older at 69. We thought he was fit and healthy, so much so that he went out on his usual 12 mile bike ride one day, had a cardiac arrest and never came home again. At the moment you will still be in shock … and denial. It didn’t hit me that he was actually gone for several months …and when it did hit it hit hard. I am now 8 months on and still miss him every day … have good days and bad days, but the pain does subside a little … hang on in there. PM me if you need to chat.


My husband was also on a bike ride but hadn’t gone far he was peddling one second and gone the next. I’m deep in my grief but I’m also grieving for the fact that he went so young and won’t see our 12 and 9 year old grow up and miss all their Moments in life.


Hi @Liz15 i am so sorry for your loss.
My husband passed unexpectedly in November 2022 (he was slightly older than yours) please know you have support here - everyone here have been amazing… also bei.g a ‘young’ widower - here has been so supportive.

We are all here for you xx


Thank you x

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So sorry you have this awful truth to come to terms with and your husband being so young too. Tragic.
My darling husband was slim, strong, seemingly fit a well, aged 60 and went to play his weekly Monday evening football and never came home.
The shock you will be feeling can be all consuming so try to accept any help offered, particularly with your children. My younger daughter has a learning disability so is quit childlike in some ways and locals from the village came and scooped her up to take her places which is what she needed but something her sister and I certainly couldn’t manage.

You are among friends here with other young widows making up a few of our number. Take a look in the lost partner section at the posts on there and find your way around. There is a lot of empathy and understanding from fellow grievers.
Sending you love
Karen xxx

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