husband died suddenly out of blue in 29/12/2025.happened at home.Post morten showed heart rupture and to my horror undiagnosed end stage pancreatic cancer.Reeling,shocked and heartbroken. have 2 adult sons with aspergers living at home. one found him and we performed CRP but he had gone.feel as if in a foreign world. our middle son was stillborn and my mum died in an accident but this !!!unbelievably painful
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I am so sorry for your loss. It is so sad and hard to even make sense of. I lost R 6 months ago today. I am totally heartbroken and don’t know how to navigate the future. This site has been a great support for me and many others. Sending hugs x
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The shock after a sudden unexpected death is all consuming. It is also the trauma of it, for yourself and your sons. I lost my husband 6 months ago,I sat and watched the paramedics working on him for nearly an hour, it was like a horrific dream.
My heart goes out to you , you’ve experienced painful loses and the sense of living in a world so unfamiliar and alien is difficult to navigate. Just keep talking and try to comfort one another. X
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Hi Meg
So sorry to hear of the sudden loss of your beloved husband. Pain can be unbearable I know I just lost my husband on the 13/01/25. My head is still all over the place, but receiving very comforting messages from people on this forum with similar pain. Take care and sending you lots of hugs xx
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so sorry for all your losses
it is awful. just registered his death and did arranging cremation on monday.feel like a robot .
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Meg Went shopping for the first time since Monday 13 and felt terrible as I always get my husband his favourite cakes and treats when I do my weekly shopping. It was very painful. Will pick up the certificate on Wed next week so I can arrange his cremation. My heart goes out to all the losses and sending virtual hugs to everyone.
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Sorry for your loss and don’t you mean 2024 as we are 2025 now hun it’s not easy losing someone we love 
my fiancé was a sudden death july 2023 he was only 51 so much to live for this site has been amazing just remember he will always be with you their is no time limit on grieving as grief is live with no place to go xxx
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whoops yes 2024
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It’s easily done and wasn’t being negative it’s hard when your still grieving
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my brain is like a sieve
I lost my boyfriend just before Christmas. We were making love and afterwards he told me he loved me and i told him back. He then collapsed on the floor and died. It was a sudden cardiac arrest. He was 37. It was the most distressing and traumatising thing i could ever go through. I miss him so much and feel like im never going to get over it. The funeral was last week. I feel empty, lonely and can’t find the fun/enjoyment in life.
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Rachie I lost my husband on Monday last week, still making arrangements, absolutely devastated at the moment, can’t even process it, so yes I know what you are going through. My husband also went into cardiac arrest. We all seem to be going through this deep unimaginable pain. Sending you lots of hugs and take care xx
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I’m sorry to hear that. Sending you big hugs because it’s the worst imaginable pain and heartache losing someone so special. My heart is broken and i can’t face the future without him. I talk to him everyday asking him to send me a sign that he knows how much i love him and miss him but i dont think he hears me as no sign comes
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its truly horrible the shock of sudden death.my husband had made me a cuppa 5 mins before.doesnt feel real
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So sorry for your lost
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have cremation on thurs. just the two boys and sister as boys on the autistic spectrum and need very quiet goodbye.feel as if in a foreign land and just been left here
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Its now 22 months since my husband died suddenly at work. He hasn’t seemed ill and as you all say the shock is awful. I think it has taken me about a year to start to accept that he won’t ever come home. Its just a terrible way to lose someone. I find friends have been a great support.
I hope you all find help and support. This site is great as you can open up and know you will get support and encouragement.
Take care of yourselves. Xx
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horrible tough day.just miss him so much.4 weeks since hisband died suddenly. sons (both autistic)helped perform CRP and both traumatised. just want this to be a nightmare i wake up from
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Hi Meg
I took some time off and back now as I seem to be non stop crying and thinking how am I going to move forward. My husbands cremation is on the 18 February, just cannot remove my feelings , every time I see any of his belongings, ie car keys , clothes just anything and that horrible feeling starts in my stomach, went to bed at 8pm and got up at 12 midnight, and I could not sleep after that. I just feel so exhausted mentally and physically . So when i read the losses on this forum I feel I am not alone. Anyway take care and sending lots of hugs. As time they say time heals xx
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thank you. husbands cremation today
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