I lost someone close very suddenly and unexpectedly. I don’t know how to respond to others as they express their own shock and bewilderment that it’s happened. I know it’s horrific and unexplainable, I don’t know why it happened. I don’t know what to say. I just want to not answer the door or phone again ever.
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Do whatever you feel you should or shouldn’t. Look after yourself in this extraordinary circumstance. You may find that simply sitting in the company of others is a comfort. Other times you will need to be alone to process your own thoughts. Mostly, take care of yourself. X
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@Laura96 I think it just proves the point that Their aren’t any rules when it comes to bereavement! I lost my wife in July and some days I can talk to people fairly well and other days I just lock myself away from everyone! You must just go with what ‘feels right for you’ Just talk to everyone one on this site! It’s still helping me and I’m sure it’ll help you….
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My husband’s funeral was Saturday, the 5th. Many friends came to offer support and there were many crying. I just told them “I am so sorry that you lost your good buddy, I know it is hard to lose someone you love. He loved you very much and I know you loved him. We will all be okay.” I find that friends need comfort as they are grieving too. We aren’t the only ones mourning the loss. I am tired of talking about it all too. I lost my husband 15 days ago and have settled into a quiet time going no where, staying inside and trying to calm the hurricane of emotion swirling around. People really want to help, they just don’t know how. Let them know what you need and they will jump to assist. This is the time to let people love you.
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Thank you all. Whilst I wouldn’t wish anyone to be in our position, it is a comfort to know others understand.
I think it’s the suddenness of it that I’m really struggling with. When others express their own shock, I don’t know what to say. There’s no denying how awful it is.
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