A week ago today, my beautiful baby girl only ten years old died/passed away/ gained her angel wings- I don’t even know what to call it! She was fine, enjoying our ‘trip of a lifetime’, the next minute she was having a seizure and was in a coma. Now she’s gone and we’re stuck abroad trying to bring her home. I’m broken.
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Hello LJZ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your little girl. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want to reach out to The Compassionate Friends, who support families who have lost a child of any age. You can call them on 0345 123 2304
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Rhi
I am so sorry, there are no words to reflect the loss of baby girl. Sending you hugs. I can only hope you are getting all the support you need abroad and when you all return. Do what you have to do and however you want to do it. Please also try to take care of you as well.
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I am thinking about you, sending lots of love and hugs to you. 
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It was hard to find the right conversation I think… I am struggling to understand the how what why to losing my 15 year old daughter in July … she is not even in her plot it has been a terrible traumatic and painful time. My daughter died after only 10 days of being ill… I took her to the doctors who diagnosed tonsillitis they asked me to take her to A & E as tachycardia where they then diagnosed her with pharyngitis… started antibiotics. The next day took her back to docs as she had been sick changed tablets…
4 days later I rushed her to hospital where they had no idea what was going on … sepsis/lukemia and we had to be transferred to UCLH where she died as we arrived. My baby had HLH a rare disease which would never of been caught … my grief is beyond words and I can’t get out the loop of those awful days and then minutes… she asked will I wake up when we had to intubate her … how do I get over that … sorry but I’m struggling … this is one of life’s terrible tragedies…
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I’m so sorry for your loss…
I am so sorry for your loss of your beautiful baby girl. Mine was 33 when we lost her in June without any warning.
It is a struggle, it is very hard. You need to cry, cry and cry. Scream if you have to. Be selfish, this is yours and your daughter’s time, no one else’s. Take comfort from people around you, give comfort to people that need it, that way you will get comfort too. We can’t predict what anyone is going to say, your daughter knew you were there and love her dearly. It’s very early days for you and me, we need to be kind to ourselves. We have to go through the struggle, the tears, sleepless nights because we love them. Please take care
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Thank you… I wish we knew there was life after deathxxx you take care now I’m so sorry no parent should ever go through this xx
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It’s so bloody hard! I can’t imagine how life can ever be normal again. I miss her so much! X
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I’m sorry for your loss of your daughter. It’s beyond cruel that this happens. I’m like you, I live each minute, struggling so much and still in shock. Can’t believe it has happened as sudden. There really are no words in this situation. As parents we shouldn’t be here. Sending love x
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Our stories seem very similar. My baby girl was well enjoying our trip of a lifetime. We were on a cruise ship and we thought she had sea sickness. Just 5 days later, she was in a coma for two days and then we were told she had no brain activity and we had to turn the machines off. We were stuck in New York with our family in the UK. We have finally got her home and her funeral is on Friday- I am broken. X x x
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Gosh we are all so unfortunate to be on this horrible journey. No one knows how heartbreaking it is unless they have lost a child, no matter how old. I want to hold my 33 yr old daughter so tight in my arms and tell her everything will be ok. A mother’s nurturing never leaves, we are mums who are supposed to protect our children. We do, but sometimes it is out of our control. My daughter fell in love with a violent man, she thought she could change him, but instead it made my daughter’s mental health suffer. We are convinced he argued with my daughter and she harmed herself to win him back by helping her. So my story is completely different but she was my beautiful daughter who I miss so much. 
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I could not see there is life after death until we said our final farewell to our daughter. We laid Caren in the ground to Faith Hill’s song There you’ll Be, she sings “In my dreams, I’ll always see you soar above the sky” at that moment as I looked up to the blue sky between the clouds the sun shone, In a flash in my mind I imagined my daughter being up there dancing. For the first time I believed we will see each other again.
I couldn’t see happy memories either but as time goes by they are coming to mind. It still hurts and I’m still heartbroken but I can just about see that in time it will get easier. She will walk beside me always.
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I am so sad to read these. I cannot even imagine how horrific it is for your child to die, but for it to be so sudden and unexpected is truly devastating. I lost my mum suddenly and unexpectedly and the shock has been so hard to deal with, but when its a fit and healthy child? Its so cruel. My only advise is to give yourself time, it wont change anything apart from your acceptance. Im holding you all in my thoughts
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