Suddenly overnight my Dad has worsened. A few days ago he was walking around a bit and this morning he’s off his legs and we’ve had to move his bedroom downstairs. He was a shadow of his former self when I saw him this morning, all spaced out and confused bless him. He tried to get up, but couldn’t…think his decline has started 
Hi Ruthie,
So sorry to hear that your dad’s condition has worsened overnight - that must be so hard to watch.
I see you’ve mentioned your mum in previous posts, and how it’s been a bit difficult, how is that now? Are you able to support each other at this time?
Thinking of you.
Kate
Hi Kate,
Well since I posted last - he’s still not entirely with it and is falling asleep all the time…
My Daughter who is a 5th year med student went over to see them the other night and spent ages talking through stuff with them, finally managing to make mum start to think about Macmillan support at long last. She wrote them a long list of things to talk to the Dr about and gave them each the Macmillan helpline number explaining it was for them both and to use privately when needed too. She made sure his advance directive was in place and that it was easy for us all to find for when/if it happens at home. I just pray that Mum will follow through with what she has advised them as she does seem to take it better from her. I also wrote in confidence to their Dr explaining the situation we are in, so hopefully she will help us to by chatting to them knowing what she does now.
It is so very hard watching Dad worsen - he just looks a poor old thing to be honest, woozy and wobbly - not the big strong man he once was bless him. I think mentally he’s given up a little too, as he’s tired of it all…
Between us, we’re dealing with Mum as she’s the difficult one in the whole equation…fingers crossed she will realise she now needs help and that Dad needs some help too! My days are ups and downs at the moment…and my brother in law just died this morning too thanks for your support,
R xx
Hi Ruthie,
So sorry to hear of the death of your brother in law. You’re going through such a lot at the moment. Sending you hugs.
It’s great that your daughter is being such a star, and the Macmillan helpline is a good idea. I think that will provide a great help for you both. I see you previously mentioning your mum is angry too, and this is almost certainly your mum’s way of coping in this horrible situation. At the same time it’s important your mum and dad get the support they need like you say.
Keep us updated,
Kate