I lost my partner six days ago. He seemed perfectly ok two months ago and it has been so dramatic a change. I have felt desperate for the whole time watching him get so ill and trying to care for him. Now I am dealing with the arrangements and feel scared that I won’t cope at his funeral. I’m findin it hard to write the service. I cry in front of people. The house serms empty. I do have family who help but I miss him so much. I keep expecting him home from work. The funeral is very soon and I’m not even used to the fact he has died and how it has all been so sudden.
My wife passed sixteen weeks ago,I couldn’t cope with writing or giving a service so got a celebrant to do it,Helen spent over two hours with us making notes and going into every detail of her life,she presented the service on the day and was caring compassionate and as perfect as you can get,it might be worth considering to ease the pressure on you.
Sending strength
Ron.
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I lost my partner six days ago. He seemed perfectly ok two months ago and it has been so dramatic a change. I have felt desperate for the whole time watching him get so ill and trying to care for him. Now I am dealing with the arrangements and feel scared that I won’t cope at his funeral. I’m findin it hard to write the service. I cry in front of people. The house serms empty. I do have family who help but I miss him so much. I keep expecting him home from work. The funeral is very soon and I’m not even used to the fact he has died and how it has all been so sudden.
Thanks Ron. I’m sorry for your loss and thank you for your understanding. I can’t meet the celebrant till next week so I feel I have to start preparing but I feel mentally stunned and physically drained. I hope the celebrant will bring it all together and make it special.
@Genie1 i lost my partner five days ago now and the funeral is next week. I am the same i am hoping that the details i give to the celebrant will be enough to bring it all together to be a good service. Ive only gone for a place that hold 30 people but i have a feeling many many more are going to turn up and this bothers me but as he never even wanted a funeral or anything i wasnt going to go all out for something he never wanted. Its been hard sorting it all out and i hope i do him proud
I I’m sorry to hear that you are in a similar situation. It is incredibly hard. Like you, I don’t really know how many people will attend and today I have had to book the food and guess the numbers. When I went to see the venue, I just felt how much he would have enjoyed going there for a meal. I wish we had done. Some people will not come back after the service and some may not eat but some may attend who were not expected. It’s an extra worry and I want it to be nice for him. We can only do our best and I’m sure my partner would not want me to be so anxious about it or to cause me any pain.
I am still putting the eulogy together and it’s been re-written several times. How do you sum up a life in a few short minutes? My partner was too young to die and the shock is making me not think straight. I’m sure your partner would be very proud that you have done all this for him. I hope you have support from family or friends. This is my first day completely alone at home and it is long and quiet.