Hi I’m Linda, I lost my husband three weeks ago after a long battle with metastatic bowel cancer. I cared for him myself up till ten days before he passed. I think it’s hitting me now, I’m suffering badly with anxiety, I just can’t seem to get my head round it at all, and I’m missing him so much
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Hello Hutchie
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 9 weeks ago very suddenly and unexpectedly, and I understand what you’re going through. Everyone on this forum understands and we are all here to support each other. Shock and anxiety are really difficult to deal with along with all the other emotions but reach out for help wherever you can. Things are stressing me out nowadays which normally I would have taken in my stride, but as everyone says, we can only take things hour by hour or day by day. Xx
hi @Hutchie im so so sorry for your loss 
i lost my husband 11 weeks tomorrow from metastatic colorectal cancer 
he had no symptoms/ill health, and had turned 40 in july only to be diagnosed the end of july, he lost his battle 6 weeks later…
i am struggling too with severe anxiety and my counsellor has said i am experiencing mental catastrophizing it’s literally exhausting and horrible…
i don’t think we will ever get our heads around this horrible traumatic loss, i can’t even imagine life now without him, i was with him 20 years and we have 3 children 9,16,19 i’m trying so hard to be strong for them but i am just in hell.
sending you so much love xx
The anxiety is crippling. I was with my husband for 42 years and then all of a sudden he’s gone. And now I’m left to make decisions on my own and being scared all the time of what might go wrong next, and making bad decisions. On the day of his funeral I discovered that our new car was completely dead, couldn’t even open the doors. I hadn’t been well enough to drive after his death, and then discovered that hybrids apparently need to be driven very regularly or the battery goes completely flat. Had roadside assistance out twice in 4 days and realised that I would need to sell it. It broke my heart because it was his car and he had been so excited to get it. I agonised over the decision, and I don’t fare much better with even simple decisions. My GP has been very supportive and doing her best but there is a big delay where I live in accessing counselling.I’m very much on my own as we didn’t have a family.