suicide of my grandson

Coping with bereavement
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my 19 year old grandson committed suicide on xmas eve i still can’t cope with it crying and tired all time is it normal as his so hard watching my daughter struggling

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Hello @maco ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your grandson. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

Another good place to get support is:

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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I’m so sorry for your loss and the pain you are going through I lost my younger sister to suicide four months ago and to me it’s very different to normal grief The shock numbs the pain only for a little while I cried more tears than I ever knew I was capable of and some Then came the constant questions how why what did I miss ruminating for days at a time while my brain tried to make sense of it Its only now I can have days where I’m not upset but I do feel anger towards her that she has caused such pain The fatigue is still there some days which is why it’s important to rest The intensity of the pain does lessen but it still comes and goes I don’t how this ends I just take each day and try to go out walking even if I don’t feel like it I am less tired cry less and I’m sleeping better Aknowledge your feelings don’t try to suppress them you are welcome to message me if I can help in any way

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I’m also in the same situation as you. My Granddaughter committed suicide in November. I know exactly how you feel.

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im so sorry to hear of your loss its really hard excepting whats happened my grandson had everything to live for i don’t get it 19 just found out hes a dad too his birthday next month how im going to cope i never know and seeing my daughter in such pain my heart breaks

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Dear maco
I can understand some of what you are going through. I lost my son to suicide ln September. He was 18. The feeling of being tired all the time is something I have and still am, struggling with both mentally and physically. Pure exhaustion. No one seems to talk about how tiring grieving can be.
The crying is perfectly normal too. Please be kind to yourself. I am sure you are doing everything you can for your daughter but look after your self too.