I recently lost my daughter 44 to a shocking horrific unexpected suicide. She lives in America and leaves behind a 12 year old daughter. I am struggling with this loss. I am disabled and have mental health issues. I only found out about her suicide on Facebook. Her husband is blanking me and I have no input into the funeral. I cannot go to the funeral because of my disability. I am still in shock and feel isolated from it all. I haven’t heard from my granddaughter for a few days and am worried that her dad is turning her against me and I will lose her as well. I go through an assortment of emotions in a day but mostly can’t believe it’s true. It only happened on 12 th February this year.
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Hello @Ruby8,
I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter that brings you here. I’m very sorry for the way you found out - it sounds like it’s made this all the more traumatic for you.
Sadly, you are not alone. If you have a look through some of the conversations in our Losing a child forum, you will find other parents who have lost a child to suicide.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may find these organisations helpful.
- Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide offer support to people over 18 who have been affected by suicide. They have a supportline on 0300 111 5065 and run support groups nationally.
- Support after Suicide has a list of local and national support.
You might also want to explore our Online Bereavement Support, where you find our Grief Guide self-help platform, and how to access our Online Bereavement Counselling.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Seaneen
Thank you for your reply. I will contact some of the people you suggest.
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What an appalling thing to happen. I am so sorry for your loss. Do you have any support from family members in the UK? X
Not really. My husband wasn’t her father so he doesn’t understand my grief. I find myself pulling away from him. I am ready to go
It sounds like you need to talk to a counsellor about this. Have you tried the organisations mentioned in the post above? I hope you can find some help and support. X
I ask for help but I am not getting it. I just wanna join my daughter
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Please keep posting on here, where you will find many sympathetic and caring people. X
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I am so sorry you have had to go through this! Please talk to a counsellor
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