Sunday 25th Dec 2022

Coping with bereavement
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Hi to you all
I do hope you find some peace today.
I find it easier to call today Sunday the same as any other day which will help me get through on my own as has always been one of my favourite times of the year

My family have gone away and just left me to cope with the lonliness and sadness of losing John 10 wks ago.
I will get through the next few days, I have no choice.
We will all find the strength and determination to cope but life is hard and will be in the weeks and months to come.

Try to do things today for yourself . Whatever it is, make it a small pleasure for you.
Eat what you want. Today is a naughty day. Just spoil yourself. I will have champagne and Christmas cake . I will try to go for a walk too.

I send my love and thoughts to you all.
Try to stop the tears today and remember our loved ones passed, who would want us to
be at peace and to ease the pain a little which seems to never go away.

My heart felt love and best wishes to you all.
Shelleyxx

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I have just woken up and was wondering how I am going to face today and your post has brought me comfort. Comfort in that I know I am not alone. I hope you find peace today, Shelley. The one thing I would offer is if the tears come, let them flow. For me they are a release and a mark of the depth of my love for my soulmate, Andy.

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Thank you, for helping me to face the day.
I wish everyone a peaceful day . X

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Thank you, @Shelley50 - Sunday best wishes to you, too.
I felt I was being selfish not feeling like wanting to celebrate today (my Mark died on 8th December) but my son having the flu has decided things for us and I am going to take your advice and be “naughty”.
The dog and I have just been for a soggy wet walk, didn’t see anyone which was fine and I took pleasure in mindfully looking at all the Christmas decorations, lights and door wreaths.

I read this poem this morning and it brought me great comfort.

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in)

E. E. CUMMINGS

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in

my heart)i am never without it(anywhere

i go you go,my dear;and whatever is done

by only me is your doing,my darling)

i fear

no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want

no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)

and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant

and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows

(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud

and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows

higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)

and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

I will be thinking of us all and hoping this wonderful group will give each of us a little peace in our hearts. Love Yvette

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May we find some peace on this day. Truthfully I am miserable. Agonizing over the loss of my beloved husband of 52 yrs in Aug. He loved Christmas. I am struggling to make it thru the day. I am alone, but it does help to be with all of you.
Karen

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Thank you everyone for the supportive words on another painful Christmas. I went to church with a friend and tears fell as I lit the candles for my beloved Sister 4 years in Heaven, and also thought of my Mum who departed this Earth in 2012. Love, Peace and Blessings to all. Xxx

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