Well the Sunday club gates are open again,we support members and associates,tea and coffee is available from your local kitchen.
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I’m here to join in the Sunday club @Ron11 - just going to get a cuppa and sit in the sun.
Just back from a few days walking with my youngest daughter and feeling like I’m back to square one again. That pit in my stomach is back, tears are flowing, feeling so sad and wondering what is the point and how do I manage to live like this for another possible 30+ years.
I’ll be the sad, depressing member today who sits on her own in a corner and is best avoided.
Hope there might be some chirpier members coming along soon to brighten the mood - sorry 
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Hi Roni,
I would say welcome but that’s totally the wrong word,you won’t sit in a corner on your own,members won’t let you,we are all in this horrible place together,Sundays especially are a real downer for a lot of us,I am sorry you feel so down.
Take care sending a virtual hug.
Ron.
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Good morning everybody.
I’m lucky enough to have a busy day today.
The best way to get through Sunday I find.
But its still there isnt it? Lurking in the background. Will our brains never give us a rest?
Big hugs to everyone x x
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Thanks Ron. It helps a lot knowing you aren’t the only one feeling so lost.
Still haven’t quite got to the kettle yet so better make an effort. I can just hear my husband nagging me about getting going and not wasting time.
Sending some hugs back and hope your Sunday is as good as can be. Xx
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Hi Liro
Hope you have a good day today,
I was just sat comparing Sundays,we used to get up have a shower (sometimes together I know a bit naughty) make breakfast discuss our dreams,then go to something like the garden centre or local park with the dog,a bit of lunch,a bit more walking,then home to cook dinner together,after dinner on with jammies glass of wine bit of tv,off to bed a few kisses and cuddles and sleep.
Now get up shower no breakfast,take dog a short walk,a nibble for lunch,then have dinner (if that’s what you can call it)tv on for background noise then bed.
Sorry for the negativity.
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Five weeks ago today was the last time I saw my dear husband awake and communicative in hospital fighting to get well enough to come home. How much do I wish I had stayed longer with him but I was so tired after ten weeks of hospital visiting every day. I feel so guilty even though I know it wouldn’t have changed the outcome. Just five minutes more …
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Its not negativity.
Unfortunately its reality.
Big hugs x
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Hi Ron 11
Have just seen your post about the Sunday club.
I have just realised it is virtual.
I am not thinking straight.
My Sundays are very like everyone else now.
Not like before could I go back to the beginning of April if only.
I never really thought about other people’s Sundays before this, just enjoying ours .
Simple things a lovely lunch out with the dog a trip to the beach whatever weather.
Now gone.
I decided I would look in the freezer to cook my self a little Sunday dinner and and got out some chicken breast but it is packed in two portions I always did that.I am again in tears as I know it is
how this will be now
What can I do?
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Hi,
I don’t think there is much we can do just bear our pain and hope it gets easier,people say try counselling,I really don’t want to bear my soul to a stranger,try joining groups they say,if I had have wanted to play bowls,go fell walking,play dominoes etc I would have taken them up years ago,my wife was my councillor,my shoulder to cry on,
But that’s just me,I do feel your pain and tears I hope we all find some peace.
Many virtual hugs.
Ron.
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As my contribution to our Sunday club, I’m in Northumberland, on Alnmouth beach, where we spent many happy times, walking the dogs which blessed our lives. A few emotions are popping up, but these are completely swamped by the happy memories. I often feel her presence holding my.hand, laughing at the sheer joy from the dogs antics. Its taken 18 months to get my life back to being worthwhile, a lot of insight, and sheer bloody mindedness needed. Our futures might be different , but its a magic Sunday for me.
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Thanks Ron for saying you won’t let me sit on my own in a corner.
That reminded me of my husbands sisters (3of them) who all said they wouldn’t let me be alone in my grief and they would make sure that they were there for me and their nieces and nephews.
Funny that I never hear from them. One phones occasionally when visiting their dad or needs something. One nothing since the week after the funeral, and one messaged last week out of the blue saying she was always here for us and how did my daughters exams go ? She was just 2 months late with that one.
Anyway moan over - I am dusting off my sad, sorry ass, dragging myself out of the sad and lonely corner and going to get my daughter and go paddle boarding.
If the grief don’t kill me perhaps the coldness of the water will ( metaphorically speaking. )
Glad you are having a positive day @tykey - it helps knowing others are living on and finding it easier.
Keep going all - sending some love and strength today xxx
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Hi guys I didn’t know about the Sunday club Sundays are my worst day everyone doing family things and I’m on my own in floods of tears breaking my heart again asking what is the point
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Sunday 8 week’s today and Sunday couldn’t be more painful and i did some cleaning today so I’m taking that as a positive and haven’t cried today yet and Sunday club i feel your pain 
but i know my husband would be upset if i wasn’t fighting and like you all just one day at a time. Big hugs to you all 
Not sure if I can upload a photo but have tried. Feeling a bit better after dragging my youngest off paddle boarding. She however felt more sad as she was reminded of last years holiday with her dad, paddle boarding on the sea.
Just can’t win ……
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Beautiful picture and it’s hard for our children to and my son won’t talk about his dad.
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Such a beautiful part of the country and somewhere my husband and I both loved.
But I still feel like s*** even amongst such beauty. Xx
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