Support for children after loss

I lost my partner of 9 years who I had 3 amazing children with they was 2 4 and 6 at the time . This was on April 2011. As my children have got older they all now suffer with struggling to control their emotions and being very close to me. I would like anyone that has been through this and has any ideas on support to give me any idea on how I can or where I can get help to support my children in order to control their emotions and live a normal ish life

Hello @Booty1982,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your partner. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

You might also want to look at Winston’s Wish for bereaved children and their families 08088 020 021 , and Child Bereavement UK - supports bereaved children. 0800 02 888 40

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


Dear Booty1982
I dont know of the exact organisations however what I can share with you and if I’m just saying what you already know I am sorry. Children dont just grieve once. As they grow they not only go through all the normal emotional changes and struggles that come with each developmental age stage, they also understand more and see and feel differently about a past loss and so may need to work through their grief as they are now. Many schools have counsellors and maybe google can give you more. Im very sorry for you =r loss and your struggles. My loss was my daughter and so different and my thoughts come from my professional life.