I would so appreciate some advice, support, help with what’s going on, my ex husband is terminally ill and I need just some advice on how to support my grown up daughter who is very close to her dad, I get on well with him and his wife, he remarried some years ago, my son is estranged from him and doesn’t speak with his sister, my daughter, he doesn’t know his dad is ill and I don’t know what his reaction would be, I don’t know whether to tell him as if he is indifferent or horrible it’s really difficult as we have only fairly recently been in touch again and I so want to stay in contact with him and my twin granddaughters his girls, we don’t presently know how long my ex husband has left but he is very ill and is under palliative care now 
, has anyone else been in this situation, I also find this hard as I lost my mum 3 years ago to this horrible disease too, and it just is so triggering. Thank you for reading x
I’m so sorry to hear about your ex-husband, @Nikki63.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you might find it helpful to read our information on coping with anticipatory grief (grief before someone dies) and supporting someone who is bereaved. There you will find some practical tips on helping your daughter cope with how she may be feeling.
The community is here for you, too. Take good care,
Seaneen
i would tell him, itshis father. what he does with the info is up to him but at least he would know.