My daughter lost her father last year. I had split from him many years ago… but i’m so sad, for him for my daughter. I’m grieving more than i’d imagine… so worried about my daughter. She’s living in the house we used to live together in…on her own. I have to keep help her all the time . she’s not looking after herself… and i’m filled with terrible memories when i go to that house. My current partner tells me i’m not letting her stand on her own two feet but she’s depressed and trying to live surrounded by her dad’s memories. It’s all too much and i don’t know how to do this any more. 
Hello @Pippa60,
I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you’re doing your best coping with your grief while supporting your daughter, too.
When it comes to something as tough as grief, it can be hard to know what to say or do that might help someone you love. Our Grief Kind campaign has lots of resources that can help. You can:
- Watch our Grief Kind classes. Our Grief Kind classes are five short video tutorials in which Sue Ryder bereavement experts talk you through what grief is like and how you can support others who are grieving
- Listen to our Grief Kind podcasts. Our Grief Kind podcasts are hosted by author, journalist and Sue Ryder ambassador, Clover Stroud. She speaks with celebrities about their personal experiences of bereavement and the support which helped them most when coping with their grief.
- Read our guide on supporting someone else who has been bereaved.
I hope that you find these resources helpful. Please take good care of yourself, too - the community is here for you.
Seaneen
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Hi Pippa,
I’m so sorry for your & your daughter’s loss.
Personally I could not have processed the loss of my dad without my mums support 14 years ago. Mum passed away in late July so I’ll never have that again & that has broken me.
Your daughter needs you. Grief doesn’t move fast & it comes in waves. Christmas will no doubt be bringing back her loss.
I don’t know what your relationship with your daughter is like but letting her know that you’re there for her if she needs you, letting her know she’s loved, putting food in her fridge (also helps you to see she is eating something), letting her know that you know she is missing her dad.
I don’t think a depressed, grieving daughter regardless of age should be left to stand on her own two feet.