Lost my dad 2 weeks ago unexpectedly and since then I have been trying to grieve, support my son but also support my mum. My mum.has fallen to pieces she is still in denial about it all keeps thinking that Dad is just going to walk back in the door like he has been away for a few days. She suffers from anxiety so that mixed with grief is hard. I know denial is a stage in grieving process but I am finding it so hard to deal , as its really upsetting when I hear her say I dont believe he is dead and how am.i going to live without him , dont know how to live without him . Mum and dad were married for 55 years. Im struggling with what tonsay ton her to help her because it breaks her heart and mine when we talk about dad. I have said I wiuld trade places to bring him back if I could but I cant. I am mentally exhausted in knowing the best way to support her. I have told her that thia is a stage of grief and that she must let her self grieve, cry as much as she needs take one day at a time. I am really worried how she is going to be at the funeral im worried she is going to have a breakdown.
Hello @Nikkih,
I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. It’s understandable you’re struggling when you’re grieving, too.
When it comes to something as tough as grief, it can be hard to know what to say or do that might help someone you love. Our Grief Kind campaign has lots of resources that can help. You can:
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Watch our Grief Kind classes. Our Grief Kind classes are five short video tutorials in which Sue Ryder bereavement experts talk you through what grief is like and how you can support others who are grieving
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Read our guide on supporting someone else who has been bereaved.
If your mum would consider visiting the GP with your support, it might be worth a chat with them, too.
I hope that you find these resources helpful. Please take good care of yourself, too - the community is here for you.
Seaneen