Do people find if they keep themselves busy and try not to think about their loved one they can get through the day.
But then as soon as someone mentions them it’s like the world collapses around them.
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As I spend most of my time alone it is very difficult for me not to think about him. But yes if someone mentions him I am in tears again. Xx.
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I’m okay when busy but when I see,or hear or think of something that brings my wife to mind the tears just come. Somehow I can’t stop it.
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I try to keep as busy as I can, but so many things give reminders.
I was just ironing and suddenly burst into tears because there was nothing to iron for my dear husband.
I used to have the odd little moan when he was working about all the shirts to iron. My goodness, I wish I had a basket full!
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I find it easier to not think of him but it’s impossible really. Everything I did involved him, in one way of another. Either sharing, asking advice or agreeing on something. Everything I did, I checked with him out of courtesy. It’s 7 months now and I’m accepting that he is not around, it’s still not easy by any stretch. I miss him desperately but the reality is he’s not around and I’ve got to get on as best I can.
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It’s so mixed up, I want to talk about him and I want others to talk about him. Sometimes i feel myself starting to go and try to swallow the feeling down before I speak and other times I can just talk and smile about what’s being said 
He passed away 1yr ago yesterday and again the sudden circumstances of how it all happened I can sometimes talk very openly and easily and other times I can’t get the words out of my mouth.
I’m trying to write a letter to him about how this year has been. I’m trying to acknowledge all the sadness and pain but also tell him about more positive things that have happened.
One day at a time.
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I can’t believe how much my partner has missed in just 7 months. It’s heartbreaking. Everything both families have done this year has been hard without him!
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I know @Ali29, I was only thinking about that the other day. So many family milestones and their accomplishments, it’s heartbreaking.
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There’s loads of triggers but I just find someone says do need out or how’s you today or the look they give you sets u off but if I don’t see anyone I’m not as bad
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We’re all different but my way is to face how I feel and others have to put up with me, is all very natural and it could be them going threw this and chances are one day they will x big hug
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Yeah I just find in a weird sort of way saying out loud it’s real, them words but also certain things I see get me it’s strange,
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It seems harder for older people because kids have left and had their own families, friends tend to drop off the older you get. It seems the loneliness is the worst. But then you get ones (44 here) have kids at home etc but they miss out on so many years but are kept busier if that makes sense
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Yep this is what I mean in a way
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