Your message is refreshing , however people need a place to grieve , and find understanding in other peoples experiences of being in " our club " Im a widow at 42 and to be fair i didnt want to pay a subscription to a website called Widowed young ! Ffs thats puts me in a club i dont wanna be in, i came here to find people who could give me a smile , cos people ive known for years have gone , and i wanted to connect with people any age , any loss , to understand what im going through ! But i do find some of the catogeries unhealthy ! I have what i call " rick " days where i just want him to jog on and leave me alone ! Get out of my head you bell end ! Lol , Comedy is a big thing to me and was to my husband and i often think that there should be more of that ! So i agree , but people deal with it in different ways !