Terminal cancer

How do u help close family member after death

Hi Shirlet1
You can help by just being there if and when you are needed, offer to do things even if its just making a cup of tea or some lunch. Be ready to listen, offer a hug if the person needs that. Pop round be at the end of the phone. Remember grief has no expiry date so although you may not be needed now it may be later down the line. People tend to be all in at the beggining but fade away quite quickly as the weeks pass.
Just being there is really good enough knowing someone is there for you really helps. Not just saying your there but follow up with actions if you can.

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Thanku for that helps a lot


Be guided by them. Grief changes hour by hour, day by day and therefore a bereaved persons needs change. Just offer to be there if they need a chat or someone to listen to them

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Thank you very much very helpful. X

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I agree. Just being there when they need you and offering to do the practical things like washing,cooking etc. My sister just cooked and sometimes fed half the relatives in the hospice but I didn’t realise until she stopped a week after my husband died. One of my Bills friends just sent me a row of kisses every day he was ill and every week after he died it was so sweet of him because I knew he was there and if I chose to message back fine but if I didn’t that was fine too. It’s the wee things that make a difference.
Shona x

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