I know that feeling , even when it’s me and the kids watching tv or family round , I still feel so lonely without her . Even though there’s people there , they aren’t her .
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I know. It sucks. Everything is a reminder of what has been lost. Nothing can replace that. I think that’s why I often spend that time looking through photos, scrolling through message history, etc. Yes it hurts, and I end up in tears. But it just feels like a connection. I still talk to her.
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I hope I will look over all the photos, just can’t at the moment. Still have photos up in house so that’s a start.
Lots of love 
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It’s been 7 months since my Mum died and I can’t bear to look at any photos other than the one I have on the mantelpiece. Likewise her belongings. I only just managed to finally start to sort through a few things on Sunday. I dressed in the clothes I wore for her funeral (maybe thinking I could kill 2 birds with the 1 stone idk) It was very hard and I was in floods of tears all day but, here we are 5 days later and I feel a bit lighter. It feels like a positive step for me. That said, I caught a glimpse of her favourite mug earlier and the tears came again. We’ve just got to ride this grief rollercoaster … and I hate rollercoaster’s at the best of times. Xx
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The photos that are on the walls are ok but just can’t look at any videos or other photos.
I am missing the support and knowing that she was here.
It’s very lonely as I have lost all my confidence and ability to go out.
Hopefully in time I will.
Lots of love
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Of course you are missing her support. When you met you were two separate individuals but through your ups and downs you gradually adjusted to each other and became a team each of you with your own areas of responsibility that you both worked out to make your family unit work. That took years no doubt. Now you have to attend to it all on your own and now you are having to make this transition to the new “normal “ very quickly. So don’t be surprised that you are finding it very stressful and that sometimes you want to avoid it altogether.
Mind the mental health charity have a telephone service that operates from 7pm until 1am where you can speak to someone for 20 mins. I’ve found that very helpful. They also offer a subsidised Counselling service. I have not started the counselling yet but have found the phone service invaluable. Xx
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Thanks for your help and support and kindness.
Yes there is nothing easy when dealing with loss.
Lots of love
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