Anyone else struggling more at the moment due to the change in weather?
It’s nearly 5 months since I lost my mum, and I had seen some small improvements in my motivation and energy. But since the weather changed so abruptly last week my mood and energy levels have slipped.
I know I can’t do anything about the weather, but would be interested to know if anyone else feels like this and what do you do to combat it?
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I’ve noticed it. I always struggle with the rubbish weather anyway but when it was warmer I kept myselt busier with putting washing outside and things like that. Now with the weather I just want to be curled up and it gives more empty space for all the thoughts.
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Hi RebeccaJane,
Yes I do. My mum passsed in Dec 2022 so the winter time sets off lots of triggers for me and so the bleak weather conditions dont help at all.
I have found that distractions help but in the past I havent felt like being distracted or doing anything except existing.
This year I am going to try more though and am going to plan small things to do every day to keep me busy.
Deborah
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@Buttercup93 Exactly, when the weather’s good there’s plenty to do, and being outside a lot helps too.
They have been talking about an Indian Summer so 
that comes true
@seychelles
My partner’s father died just before Christmas last year, so we’re the same as you.
Good luck with the setting small tasks, it’s a good idea, I’ve been trying to do it too.
Hi Deborah,
I’ve just noticed you’re in Pembrokeshire which is not far from me (Gower Peninsula).
We certainly get our fair share of wet weather down this way. We have so many beaches which are lovely, but the downside is the wet weather and coastal fog.
Rebecca
I hope so my dryer broke in June and I still cant find a routine to get everything dry without massive washing piles which isnt helping my mood 
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Hiya Rebecca Jane,
Yes I live in Pembrokeshire so not far at all from you.
I love the Gower. It’s so beautiful there.
In fact I spent a lot of time there visiting lots of places whilst I was at College in Swansea in the 70s.
I went to the college in Town hill and often went to Mumbles. And lived there for a while after leaving college It was a beautiful area.
How has today been for you ?
Thinking of you
Deborah
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I was just looking back at some conversations and noticed I didn’t reply to you - sorry!
It’s now over 6 months since my mum passed, and honestly I thought and hoped I would be coping better then I am. There have been improvements but the anxiety is still high, and maybe because of the shorter days, my mood has dropped. It doesn’t help that I haven’t been feeling 100% this week. But I am doing more, so that’s good.
How are you? Hope you are well.
Hiya Rebecca Jane,
Wow 6 months already!!!
Its 3 years for me in Dec and i feel the same. I thought I would feel so much better than I do. The crying has eased and I have accepted things more but the awful pain is still there,
I dont think it will ever go to be honest. And a part of me doesnt want it to. I am learning to live a different life now and try to distract myself as much as possible.
My mother in law passed away last week so its brought everything back. I am trying to distance myself from it all and let others plan everything as it so triggering.
I am aiming to spend next year really looking after myself. I have gone I just dont care about lots of things like how i dress and look etc. But i owe it to myself and my mum to pull myself together and sort myself out.
Its so difficult isn’t it to drag yourself out of the grief rut.
I have everything and more than i could possibly want in my life but teh only thing i want is my mum back.
How is the lovely Gower? I remember doing my teaching practice at Newton School many years ago. I thought i was the bees knees lol. Loved every minute of it.
I used to go to Langland beach i think was the name in my lunch hour. Those were the days when you didn’t go rushing around in the lunch hour. I also went to the Chilli festival when it was held on the Gower and it was amazing .
If you fancy meeting up in the NewYear let me know. It would be lovely to have a chat.
Keep going ok because my goodness you are doing so well.
Keep in touch also
Love Deborah x
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