I know this has been on here before but I thought it might be worth mentioning again. I think it’s a good analogy.
So grief is like this:
There’s a box with a ball in it and a pain button
In the beginning the ball is huge. You can’t move the box without the ball hitting the pain button. It rattles around in there and hits the button over and over. You can’t control it - it just keeps on hurting. Sometimes it seems unrelenting.
Over time the ball gets smaller. It doesn’t disappear completely. It hits the pain button less and less but when it does, it hurts just as much. It’s better because you can function day to day more easily. However, the downside is that the ball randomly hits that button when you least expect it…