Paul loved them so much but I didn’t and I had no sentimental thoughts about them. No one in the family wanted the responsibility of them and I had someone round this afternoon from the Society of Cacti to take them all away. I watched trays and trays of them being emptied from the conservatory and I kept telling myself I was doing the right thing and they were going to be loved. So why am I feeling so terrible? Logically I’ve done the right thing and Paul wouldn’t expect me to keep them, yet now I’m crying again. X
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Frankie- that is so strange that you should post about plants! My husband was a professional gardener and i had to like you dispose of the contents of his poly tunnel and greenhouse very early on.It was so sad. I gave most away to a society for disabled adults who garden as therapy. I did manage to keep some of his cactii in pots and amazingly they are still ok. I have had over 2 years to process all this and know that he would have liked that other plant lovers could benefit from his collection of plants and tools . You have done the right thing-
I am sure Paul would have approved Of your thoughtfulness. My husbands ashes are scattered in the mountains where the wild flowers and herbs grow overlooking our house in the distance.
Jenny
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My husband was a hoarder and never threw anything away. 18 months on I’m still sorting . Just his engineering shed to go . Not sure what I’ll do with shed only up 3 years insulated electrics etc too good to dismantle .id 20 boxes of books to various charities no one wanted all of them so took few boxes each week. CDs dvds similar and son sold all his Lego kits online. The house feels good for the declutter but it hurts that it was so easy to get rid of things that he loved. I’m not sentimental over objects he’ll always be in my heart but at times the uncluttered shelves and cleanliness just remind me he is gone and I’m on my own.
The future is scary , contemplating retirement on my own is scary- those plans we had are gone. He became disabled so plans were changed but I was happy just being together I now struggle to see what retirement will be.
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