The death of my wife and grieving

Losing a partner
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It’s almost one year since my lovely wife Janet and I were told she only had a few weeks to live. There was no further treatment and our world fell apart . Her diagnosis on the eve of our 50th wedding anniversary was awful. She was amazing over the following years never grumbling or feeling sorry for your self.

She was the glue that held us all together. I miss her smile, her kindness, her love and warmth. She was always there for me, her family and her many friends. We both knew we were meant for each other from our first kiss in October 1968. We became one and thought we would grow old together. Without her I am empty and my heart is broken. The physical pain is unbearable and doesn’t seem to diminish. She and my family were my motivation for living and the love we had for each other was truly amazing. The 57 years we shared were filled with lovely memories and I would do anything just to hold her and kiss her again and tell her just how much i loved her.

Until we are together again ‘‘I’ll see her in my dreams, because death is not the end.’’

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Hello @songs,

I’m so sorry to hear about your lovely wife.

You’re not alone - sadly many of our members have experienced the loss of their spouse and will understand what you’re going through. As you approach the one year anniversary, you might find our support page on coping with anniversaries helpful to read.

If you need any extra support yourself, we’re here to help. As well as the community, we also have bereavement support information, Grief Guide and our Grief Kind spaces. You can find out more about our bereavement services at sueryder.org/support :blue_heart:

I hope you find the community to be a support to you. Take good care,
Seaneen