The Fall Out from Loss

Been on these forums now a few months maybe even a year, I forget when I joined. I loss my mum in August 23. I had a lot to deal with on my own being younger then my sister. Mum like a lot of people didn’t want to deal with her own demise. So it was all left to me to sort out and organize whilst working at the same time.

I’m not working at the moment because of health. So I’m more at home between runs and excessive time spent at the hospital. It’s kept me busy and distracted me from my loss but also has raised more questions in my head too. Questions I still don’t have the answers too and never probably will.

I have invested time in spirituality to help me with losing mum and what awaits me too. Life changed since losing mum and then changed again for me regards health. It’s like being plucked from 1 existence and put down in another and then it happening all over again. I’m grateful to have a roof over my home but it still feels like mum’s home but without her.

I haven’t got the answers, wished I had!

On reflection you deal with the loss and the emotions that come with that. Then as the dust settles and life continues, the emptiness, the isolation kicks in. We came here at first for support to be around others like us. But that changes over time too as time flows. I didn’t come here for friendship or communication but it all changes. Our lives change too and thoughts kick in our long have we got left on this planet ? Days blend into other days and maybe our homes become prisons of isolation ? I shared home with mum since birth right Upto August last year.

Hello @Keith68 ,

I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.

Take good care,
Alex

Hello
Yes interesting what you said about the isolation.
I feel like that about losing my husband of nearly 50 years 2 years ago. (Lost my parents 30 and 32 years ago).
Yes same feelings about it the days just mingling along and about the future. As for not getting the answers well not sure they are there to be had.
I just felt got to pull myself up by my bootstraps and get back on track. I had given up things before the pandemic. I seized the opportunity to fill a gap left by a lady I knew who has become too ill. So I have her place in the choir. It puts a structure to Sundays and Thursday evenings. I have a role to play. I am wearing her gown. I felt it was right.
I cared for my grandsons yesterday. We had a good time laughing and playing charades. My other son had a role to play as uncle. The old place was used not just for me to rattle around in. Then they all leave and it is quiet again. The cat for company. So tomorrow I will do the normal mundane things.
Decided I need to do something to help someone so sent two birthday cards. Not much really. But thought that counts. Decided to write in each. Never know might get a reply.
Would be nice to find someone who I get on with.

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