The funeral

Losing a partner
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2 days before the funeral. How will I get through the day I don’t know.
I don’t want it to be true but I know it is.
Friends and family are great but what I really want to do is stay in bed and cry.

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Hello @JackieJ ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling about the funeral. I’m so sorry to hear about your very recent loss . Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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Hi JackieJ,
I am so sorry you have lost someone you love. You don’t say what the relationship was, but I am guessing it’s a partner.
I just wanted to say that, when my husband died, I felt just like you, especially about my husband’s funeral, but I got through it, and you will too. Like many other occasions in life, the anticipation is often worse than the day itself.
You are lucky that you have a loving family to support you. Mine were the same, and they really got me through it. It must be awful to have no-one at such a time.

Well, this won’t have helped you much, I am sure, but I wanted you to know that people on this forum will totally understand and will always respond if you post on here.
It’s been well over 2 years for me and I have survived. You learn to make a different life for yourself because there is really no other choice. It will never be the same but it will be a new life and I am sure that your partner would want that for you.
Keep going! Hugs, Ann

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Hi Jackie. I’m sorry for your loss. My husband died in August so all that your are going through is still raw for me. Its not an easy time, but you will get through this. Its great that you have such good support. Maybe you should stay in bed sometimes, but only you know how you really feel and sometimes its right for you to do exactly that as long as it’s not every day. People are great and caring but you will want to be alone at times and there’s nothing wrong with that. Keep posting

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.I understand and also feel the same way. My husband hated the build up but loved the day. So it’s going to be hard, but we’ll still perform the loyal toast and absent friends etc.

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Thank you Ann
My husband was only 59 I feel robbed of the life we had yet to live. Although we were married for 39 years it was not long enough
Your message gives me hope that I can and will survive
Take care and thank you again x

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Thank you Camille it’s so hard when you just want to stay alone and cry for what you’ve lost.

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So sorry for you however you will find the strength to get thro the day .praying for you