My husband died 6 weeks ago. I’m coping fairly well and am trying to move forward. My problem is that the future seems vast, overwhelming and daunting. It’s like a big hole in front of me…a door into the unknown. It’s frightening really. Does anyone else feel like this?
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I lost my son 7 weeks ago .
The best advice I’ve been given is not to look too far into the future as it is difficult to comprehend one without our loved ones .
I just take one hour/day at a time .
xx
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Yep it’s the only thing to do. I lost my son 5 months ago and today I feel like it was 5 mins ago. Can’t stop crying again. The pain is horrendous and I was doing well,hopefully the rest of the day will improve, I don’t even think about tomorrow anymore…no point as it’s not guaranteed to any of us…I’m full of doom and gloom sorry. Hour by hours is all we can do, xx
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Hi yes one day at a time lost my daughter 6 months ago feels like yesterday remember the pain like a knife going through my heart .
Just doing one day at a time.
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I dont feel like that! But I used to! Its a truly awful time. I felt that if I multiplied the feelings when I had cancer by the feelings when I was rushed to A and E, then multiply it again by 1000, then it would be getting close to the feelings I had when my wife died.
Now 16 months later, Im happy again. I never forget her.
So there is a future ahead, just keep battling forward day by day, and it will come. Its not a life sentence. Good luck, one foot in front of another.
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Yep and the more you think about it the bigger it gets. Try hour by hour if day by day it’s much more manageable
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I have to do hour by hour, can’t even think about the next day, to mind blowing. Yesterday I would cry at anything and couldn’t pin point the trigger point. This site is a godsend where people actually understand you xx
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