Hello Everyone,
Hope you are all OK and bearing up on the run up to Christmas.
I am back on the forum to share my experience with unfeeling and inconsiderate family members.
For the last few months I have been helping out my cousin in Italy who lost his mum (my only aunt) back in the summer. I have been moral support and got him out of some pretty dark times and thoughts.
The plan was that he would come over for Christmas and he even bought a plane ticket. He made it very clear that he would not be contributing to much while he was here, leaving 99.5% of all costs down to me (e.g. hotel, food).
A couple of days ago, he tried to ring me a couple of times, but I was having a quiet day (having worked flat out for several weeks from Monday to Sunday) and did not answer (although I sent him a message). I then got a very rude message from him saying that I annoyed him by not answering (but much ruder than that), wishing me the best for the future (sarcastically). This morning he called me and I told him in no uncertain terms that it is up to me whether I answer the phone or not and that I will not accept such rude behaviour from anyone.
He then messaged me an hour ago saying that it is best that we do not stay in touch and that of course he will be spending Christmas and New Year in Italy.
To be honest, this came as a huge relief. I can now spend the holidays how I want using the money I earned by working so hard, rather than having someone sponging off me.
I am sorry if I come across as unfeeling, but should he need help in the future, he will have to go somewhere else. I am done.
My dearly missed partner used to say (very wisely) that people do not realise that, should they need help, they ought to treat others with decency, kindness and politeness.
I may be spending my birthday and Christmas on my own, but I would rather do so than with people who do not deserve to be helped. And I did my very best with him!
I am sorry if I come across as jaded and hard-hearted. I am not, but there is a limit to what I am prepared to put up with.
Apologies about the rant.
Love to all,
Sonia
