We lost my beautiful granddaughter Louiza at the age of 2, she had a brain tumour. They attempted brain surgery but it went catastrophically wrong and she ended up with severe brain damage. We took her home and cared for her for the last seven months of her life, she died 2 months after her 2nd birthday.
It is 17 months now since she passed away but it still feels so raw. Louiza’s Mum, my daughter, is broken and is not the same person. I am grieving for my granddaughter and watching my poor daughter suffering,
Life is joyless now and I feel life is pointless.
To make things even more unbearable my mother has now been diagnosed with an incurable brain tumour.
We don’t know how long she has left but we know it’s months at most.
Life is too hard and I’m finding it hard to carry on.
Chrissy H,
I can not even begin to imagine your grief and torment, my heart goes out to you it really does, how we cope from day to day going through the unbearable pain amazes me, but we do, we are here to face another day, my reasons are for my family, I’m sure you know how much your daughter needs you right now, as your mother does too, but you really need to look after yourself too, so that you can be there for them as strong as you can be, but allowing your own grief to come out too is very important, words just are not enough, but on this site we do all understand your pain, I’m hoping you can find some kind of comfort here, bless you,
hugs Chrissy3
Hello Chrissie, how sad and my heart bleeds for you and your daughter. Your poor little granddaughter to have gone through such a time in her short life. There is so little I can say because I don’t think words are enough. Please seek help if you think it would help both of you. Counselling by people who deal with losses that you and your daughter have gone through are there to help. I have three sites that may be useful. Sending all my love and blessings to you both. S xxx
Dear Chrissie
I am so so sorry about the loss of your granddaughter and your impending parting from your mum…sometimes life is so unbelievably cruel and those left behind struggle to find the strength to go on…but somehow, and often in spite of ourselves, we keep putting one foot in front of the other and learn to cherish our memories. Most of us hope and believe that those who have left this life have been called to a far better home than this world can ever offer and, when the time comes, you may find some comfort in the thought that your mother and her great granddaughter will be together…just as you and your daughter are. Words are never enough but I hope you will know that you are in all our thoughts. Take care x
Dear Chrissy, what a tragic loss for you & your daughter. It goes against everything we expect to lose a child. In her short life to go through so much no wonder your daughter is broken. Then to have to watch your Mum go through it as well. I hope your daughter is getting support to help her. Try to look after yourself as much as you can (easier said than done I Know) thinking of you & wishing you well. Carol B. X