I lost my gorgeous Bob on 30th September last year. He suffered two strokes the last one took his speech, he couldn’t even write words in my birthday card. He was unable to wash, shave or do anything. I was his caregiver but I didn’t mind but it must have been unbelievably hard for him to be reliant on me, he was a proud man.
I have my birthday to go through next week.
You have to go on but only those who have been through it can totally understand.
We would have been married 39 years so a big part of you has been with them.
A cat suddenly came into my life and has been a godsend but I’m far from over it yet.
Reading all the conversations makes me feel I’m not alone.
Kathy
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Hello @Teddy3,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Take good care,
Alex
Teddy3, i am afraid you are not alone on this crap path. I hope you manage your Birthday ok next week. Like you my wife was too ill to do me a birthday card,she went 2 days later.
I am glad your cat is helping you. I don’t think we will ever get other it.
Take care and look after yourself.
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I feel your pain. I lost my dear husband two months ago. He was critically ill for seven months. I did not have a Thanksgiving (US) or Christmas. All was bare in my life. I feel a void or space that is empty.
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Funny you should mention a cat - my husband died suddenly on his birthday this year (January) there are 2 cats on mu street known of them ages their owner says they are about 15 -before my husband died, they didn’t give me a second glance but now they see me getting out my car or walking up the street from the shops and at so excited as if they are my cats but they’re not. I haven’t fed them. I respond to them because they look so overjoyed to see me.
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Ahh thank you so much for your kind words x
Hello Teddy3 I lost my husband July this year after 34 years together. I feel you and hear you. I am dreading birthdays, anniversary and Christmas. It must have been tough to see your Bob go through the devastation of the strokes and of course terrible for him.
Mark’s birthday is at the end of October and we will celebrate his life by scattering his ashes on his birthday. I hope your birthday was peaceful