The loss of my mum

Hello i lost my mum 2 years ago on the 21st September 2021 i find it very hard to cope with my partner doesnt understand what im going through even tho he lost his mum over 20 yrs ago so you think he would understand…and all i get is get over it and move on i dont get upset infont of him i go on my own and cry to myself which its quite alot i only have a day or 2 where im alright then the rest is feel down upset i dont know weather im going through depression or what ? I keep trying to pick myself up and then when i do im down again like i said i only have 1-2 days of feel ok …i dont know who i can turn to anymore

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Hiya Emmsybobs,
It’s very difficult when you have a partner who doesn’t totally understand or says things that are heartbreaking to listen to.There is no way you can move on just like that so please believe me when I say you are normal and experiencing the same feelings as I and many others on here feel.I often go on my own to cry as for me it’s my way of dealing with it.Its quite personal also to be alone for a while with grief and I feel close to my mum when I have a good cry or just a few tears on my own.You are doing what is normal.Grief is so personal and there is no right or wrong way to deal with it as we are all finding out.
In the beginning I felt like I couldn’t carry on without my mum and just wanted to go with her but I also knew that if my mum was still here and knew how I was feeling she would be so so cross with me for feeling like that. My mum was proud of me and for everything I achieved in life so I knew it was wrong of me to feel like that I am sure your mum was so proud of you also and would want you to carry on and have a fabulous life.
There are so many people on here who I am sure will respond to your posts and help you yo feel you are not alone at all.
Please feel free to post anytime or pm me if that helps.
Big hugs
Deborah x

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@Emmsybobs grief is a very hard and often lonely road to navigate. There are ways to help you get through the pain though so I would advise you to read as much as possible both online and in specific books. Looking through the posts on this forum is also very helpful as it shows that you aren’t alone. It’s so hard for you if your partner is not as understanding as you need. Try to find someone you can talk to about your feelings though or post on here. You’ll only be able to process it all if you can work through your emotions. There will be ups and downs along the way but eventually you’ll learn how to live with your loss. Best wishes xx

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Yes, definitely read books and you can Google loads online. I can’t mention names, but I’ve found vlogs on Youtube that really help talking about the afterlife and about souls in heaven. I think it brings me a lot of comfort.

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