Did something happen at the group or was it that it’s draining? I know, when we need them the most they aren’t here. 
Hi all, much of what you’ve all written resonates with me. I lost my Mum suddenly and unexpectedly a year ago. A post mortem revealed she had metastatic pancreatic cancer which nobody knew about. If she suffered from any symptoms (which she obviously must have done 
) she hid them well from us all. She lived on her own and was fiercely independent and stoic. She celebrated her 80th birthday just 2 weeks before her death and seemed more frail when I last saw her. The afternoon she died she drove her car to the supermarket, did her shopping, drove home and then collapsed on her driveway. Sadly, she wasn’t discovered until the following morning by a neighbour. When I couldn’t get hold of her on her mobile I was concerned so rang her landline, only for it to be answered by the police and paramedics who told me what had happened. The shock was devastating. I don’t think I had ever really contemplated that one day she would die. It has been a long and difficult year for me, trying to adjust to a life without my Mum. There have been bleak days of painful grief, stress and sadness. I’m very grateful that I had her as my Mum but so aware of how much I have lost. 
It’s a hard experience and I send you all my deepest condolences. Take care xx
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Ulma ive private messaged you in answer to your question re the bereavement group. Im just conscious other members of the group could be using this site for all i know so prefer not to put the details on here.
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Hugs to you Rosie - it just seems impossible doesnt it to envisage one minute they are going about their normal lives and then suddenly collapse. I simply cant imagine how you must have felt to hear the news that way - my heart goes out to you
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